In the UK - need help (PT8)

[Huddy]

I agree that the past is pointless. Future? Obviously, I would prefer that was with W but she has to let whatever is in her flow through.

[Pyrite]

Hey Huddy, I have been thinking a lot about past and future ATM. See my thread for a recent brain squirt. But really - take some time to appreciate the now time in your break.

-Py

[Wonka]

Huddy,

You pull back because you feel you "have to", but because the true reason is you're busy GALing. When goes away, fill up your schedule with activities and interesting things.

[Huddy]

Hi Py, Wonka

Have stopped by Py, but you seem to be getting good advice, so I feel anything I have to offer would be a bit useless!

Wonka

I have started to cram in some GAL activities for those two weeks. This is easier as my S will be with W, so I am not constrained. So far, I have two nights out, an evening out, two weekend days planned with work in between, so I won't be bored, that's for sure.

House has gone to market today. D has been hugging me ever since and S is having a meltdown. My W's response? To shout at both the kids. Tragic, really tragic.

[Wonka]

Huddy,

I am not surprised that W yelled at the kids in response to their fears because it conflicts with her fantasy narrative of having a happy family with OM. Yeah, kids are feeling scared and bewildered by changes instigated by W.

Just continue to be their rock and be the stable parent.

[NDY]

I'm pretty sure Huddy's wife isn't in an A.

[Huddy]

Hi Wonka

There is no OM, just a MLC/SIL/MIL fantasy. W wants to replace me with people who the kids see less than twice per year.

[Wonka]

Oops, this place is awash with OW/OMs. Sorry.

Yeah, same still applies. Seeing the kids upset just messes with her own narrative of happily-ever....

Hell no! Better not have any one or any thing contradict her version of a life with rainbows, cotton candy, and popsciles.

[Huddy]

Ha ha Wonka. In the UK that's rainbows, candy floss and lolipops!

[Bob723]

Hello Huddy! Please hang in there.

A friend passed this along to me today. I found it encouraging and wanted to share it with you:

Faith…Trust…Hope…Confidence…Love…Attitude

{1}
Once all villagers decided to pray for rain,
on the day of prayer all the people gathered,
but only one boy came with an umbrella.

That's FAITH

{2}
When you throw a baby in the air,
she laughs because she knows you will catch her.

That's TRUST

{3}
Every night we go to bed,
without any assurance of being alive the next morning
but still we set the alarms to wake up.

That's HOPE

{4}
We plan big things for tomorrow
in spite of zero knowledge of the future.

That's CONFIDENCE

{5}
We see the world suffering,
but still we get married and have children.

That's LOVE

{6}
On an old lady's shirt was written a sentence
'I am not 80 years old....
I am sweet 16 with 64 years experience'

That's ATTITUDE

Have a happy day,

Live your life like the six stories above!