Well, still no reply to the email. I know she's read it and I'm hoping she gets the message. This feels quite liberating.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Yeah, it feels pretty good doesn't it? We've grown a pair of big dangly hairy ones and we're standing up for ourselves and our kids. What on earth have we been doing all these weeks.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
Yeah, it feels pretty good doesn't it? We've grown a pair of big dangly hairy ones and we're standing up for ourselves and our kids. What on earth have we been doing all these weeks.
Me? I know I've been slowly coming to terms with my world being ripped apart. Realising I will be OK no matter what. Understanding detachment and getting myself on an even keel. Accepting that my old M is dead. Getting to grips with the harsh reality of this sorry mess.
I must admit. Reading Sandi2's threads on the WW opened my eyes considerably. I can handle the rejection now. This is her loss, not mine. So now that I'm in control of my own destiny I will simply continue on the path I've laid out for myself. It's a real shame as what we could have had would have been fantastic but there you go. It's not going to happen anymore.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Ok,so this just happened and I'm so angry right now I don't know what to do. In and email exchange with the WW:
HER -
Quote:
I have discussed the house situation with S9 and he does not want me to put the house up for sale, he has asked me to try and make a settlement with you so that he can stay in his own house. That is why I haven’t yet put the house on the market yet.
ME -
Quote:
you discussed this without me? You spoke to him about this without letting me know? Do you think that was the correct thing to do? So now if I don’t accept your offer he will think that it’s my fault he has to move house? No, no way I’m accepting that. I’m not responsible for the breakup of my family WW. You are. There is more going on with the house than just money or have you forgotten what that house represents?
Now, to me that's blackmail. My position is now even more entrenched, or is that the wrong approach?
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
I have discussed the house situation with S9 and he does not want me to put the house up for sale, he has asked me to try and make a settlement with you so that he can stay in his own house. That is why I haven’t yet put the house on the market yet.
EXCUSE ME?? She discussed this with your son? Putting the blame more or less on you, if they need to leave?? That is so disrespectful towards both you and him, and I think your reply was GREAT!!
Did you get a reply?
M: 44 H: 43 ILYBNILWY: 7/4-15 Decided to try to reconnect. "This doesn't work, I have no feelings": 20/4-15 Scheduled "talk" :9/5-15 It's over: 9/5
I have discussed the house situation with S9 and he does not want me to put the house up for sale, he has asked me to try and make a settlement with you so that he can stay in his own house. That is why I haven’t yet put the house on the market yet.
EXCUSE ME?? She discussed this with your son? Putting the blame more or less on you, if they need to leave?? That is so disrespectful towards both you and him, and I think your reply was GREAT!!
Did you get a reply?
No reply. She'll be on route to the house now. Disgusting behavior from her. Seriously disgusting. I am so angry with that I think I need to calm down before I clap eyes on her tonight.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Calm down first. No shouting matches in front of S (just had to remind W about that kind of thing in my house). It's inexcusable that she is using your S as a tool to try and get you to give her what she wants. I think I would mention that to your L - it could be useful for your seperation agreement.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
Calm down first. No shouting matches in front of S (just had to remind W about that kind of thing in my house). It's inexcusable that she is using your S as a tool to try and get you to give her what she wants. I think I would mention that to your L - it could be useful for your seperation agreement.
Thanks mate. I hit the weights when I got in. Released the anger. I've came down a peg. But I will be mentioning this to the L. The way I see it this is blackmail of the worst kind.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
