Well talking to my IC today, I know that my S is safe and he's not left alone while there...so I think it's something I have to just learn to be in the grey with, unless or until I get proof or admittance of something going on.
The DBing continues. Today he came home earlier than he has been and wanted to watch a show together. Small steps.
M 46 / H 43 T 24/M 18 S 4 11/6/2014 ILYBNILWY 1/16/2015 Living in separate bedroom 1/8/2016 H moved out
Eirinn, I have been struggling pretty hard with my M, your resolve, locong heart, insight, practicality and strength are making it easier for me to take those small steps, Too.
Zephyr, thank you for your kind words. I am so thankful to God that he led me to Michelles' book and then this board. Being in a very rural situation, I'm not sure I could have handled this by myself. Now, on some days, I think maybe I will be able to save my marriage...not the same one I had, but a better, stronger one.
I pray for all of us that it will happen. We just need to keep supporting each other and be willing to look inside of ourselves and be honest.
*hugs* E
M 46 / H 43 T 24/M 18 S 4 11/6/2014 ILYBNILWY 1/16/2015 Living in separate bedroom 1/8/2016 H moved out
I pray for all of us that it will happen. We just need to keep supporting each other and be willing to look inside of ourselves and be honest.
*hugs* E
Hello "E"
What a beautiful sentiment that is above! How are you feeling and doing now?
I value many things in life and a mate, and one of the biggest is "caring." I am certain others would agree with me that you are a very caring person.
By the way, thank you for the post in my thread. I replied back over there. I will quickly add I had a good day today, thank you.
I found a Bible verse that I am dedicating to you. It's about finding help which we all have done by joining this forum and supporting one another. It's what you referred to you the quote above.
Maybe it will being a to your face.
“‘I will restore you to health and heal your wounds,’ declares the LORD, ‘because you are called an outcast, Zion for whom no one cares’” (Jeremiah 30:17).
*Hugs*
Your friend,
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
I really do pray for you all. It's a long journey- and a very hard one. And some days we need a little encouragement. Today, I need the encouragement. I'm finding things very difficult- this is not the easy option by far.
Me 26 H 25 M 4 T 5 Baby born 4/14 BD: 1/15 EA: 2/15 PA: 4/15 reconciling: 4/15 ILYBINILWY- 11/15 ILY-1/16 ILYBNILWY 4/16 ILY 6/16 ILYBINILWY 6/16 Baby due 3/17 BD 8/16
Bob, what a beautiful quote! I wrote it down in my journal to remember.
I'm struggling with doubt this week again. There have been so many small signs that he's coming back to me, but still no R talk or indication from him that he's changed his mind. He is such an avoider of negative situations that I sometimes feel like he's relieved I'm not making a fuss and that way we can be friends until he's ready to leave our house.
M 46 / H 43 T 24/M 18 S 4 11/6/2014 ILYBNILWY 1/16/2015 Living in separate bedroom 1/8/2016 H moved out
It saddens my heart to see that u are going theough hell for sure. This is the struggle we will need to not just endure, but kick its a$$ to learn to live the rest of our lives from. All these months, i see it hasn't been easy, but I get a sense that you are DEFINITELY figuring out how you can Be as awesome As u can be.
With that said...it sooo stinks not knowing their mind.
I'm wondering if I have to rework my goals... He hasn't brought up D for a month, but that has happened before. Texted and wanted my S and I to meet him for supper tonight. That's a positive I think.
hmmm.
M 46 / H 43 T 24/M 18 S 4 11/6/2014 ILYBNILWY 1/16/2015 Living in separate bedroom 1/8/2016 H moved out
Bob, what a beautiful quote! I wrote it down in my journal to remember.
Dear Eirinn,
I'm happy that you like the Bible quote so much. I just got home from taking my D2 out for your b-day. She lives an hour away with my ex-wife, she finally home from college.
Anyway, I have to say I'm really tired but I wanted to thank you for your recent post in my thread and check on you.
I think your H wanting to have dinner with you and your S is a positive. I know you've been going thru hell, so please, for now, try not to have too many expectations, that's for your own good.
You may need to change your plan. Vet's, Eirinn could really use your advice!
Many *Hugs*
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
to your face.