Old dog seeks new trick 13

[Cadet]

she is not here: she is with the b*****d.

There is actually an advantage to that.
She is HIS problem, not yours.

One of the things overlooked is that the person in crisis
latches on to another person,
they need that other person to provide for ALL of their needs.

For some reason that is when things really start to unravel.

Two broken people do not make one whole person.

Make yourself whole Old Dog,
that is objective #1.

[Old Dog]

Nice profile pic Cadet :-)

Maybe I think abut this too much - gasp! But I do think, in a way, I am helping them by pushing together.

He has been divorced for years and she has shown no sign whatsoever of seeking any reconciliation. She is determined and has always been proud of that trait.

Who knows though. I can't do anything about that. It takes a lot of my strength and resolve not to scrawl what I think about her on the bedroom wall or shred all her clothes.

If I still lived here, I would have thrown her out.

Damn! This place doesn't half change me into Mt Angry.

[Cadet]

Nice profile pic Cadet :-)

Maybe I think abut this too much - gasp! But I do think, in a way, I am helping them by pushing together.

Actually as usual counter intuitive.
Best affair busting strategy IS to push them together.
An affair born out of cheating is very likely to self destruct.

You need to help more to push them together - good job!

Oh and thanks for the comment about my plane,
that is the one that I flew for 3000 hours!

[Old Dog]

Counter intuitive is the way. Must remember this.

That's a big plane: you're so manly :-)

I flew a chipmunk for about 25 minutes when I was about 18.

[Vanilla]

i flew a kite once! Does that count at all?

v

[Old Dog]

Yes, that counts ... as long as it was 'up to the highest height'.

[Huddy]

Cadet has hit a nail on the head here. How many times do you here of people having affairs who actually end up as a happy couple? At my workplace one guy was messing with a girl 16 years his junior. So, he left his wife for her, within six months she got bored, wife didn't want him back and due to his position within the company, and his lack of work whilst he was 'busy' with his new woman, he lost his post. So, out of the house, out of work, no partner and the kids won't talk to him.

Essence of story is, it's exciting to kick off with, but, when reality bites and the temperature cools down, you have lost it all for nothing.

Have hope. Unless there is abuse etc. use Sandi's rules to tempt them back.

[Vanilla]

Yes, that counts ... as long as it was 'up to the highest height'.

Oh yes.

V

[Old Dog]

It's my birthday tomorrow. I plan to pick up my kids and go to my mum's until Sunday morning when I'll return them because she wants to take them to her brothers.

WW usually leaves the house before I get there and returns after I've gone. This time there may be a danger that I bump into her ... or she may leave a card and or present for me.

My state of mind at the moment means I hate her guts and don't trust myself not to tell her to her face nor rip up any card in her face and dump any present straight in the bin.

As if by magic, here's an email I just received.

I've arranged to take the children to Suffolk on Sunday, as you know. So I could do with them being back here by 11 please.

Have a good birthday. The children's presents were selected by them, not by me. So hopefully you'll take them in the spirit in which they were intended.

Arranged. But not with me. She just told me.

[Old Dog]

I so nearly replied.

You didn't arrange your brother's with me, you just informed me what you are doing. Thanks for that.

As I said it's about when S15 gets out of bed.