Put one foot in front of the other

[Bob723]

You're welcome, Eirinn. I hope the coughing ends soon. I'm sure you do, too!

So far, my day is okay. Thank you.

If there are any big changes in your sitch, please post so we can try to assist you.

{{{Eirinn}}}

[Elly4]

So tonight he waited up for me to talk just about life and then he followed me into the master bedroom and continued to talk. It was pleasant but I'm not supposed to do anything, right? I should just keep GALing?

[Elly4]

Thanks, Bob. You always make me smile.

[Zephyr]

Yes Eirinn, we need to keep moving in a direction that we need to go and not let the good or bad spots control us. We nees to start living our lives for us. We need to keep laying the foundation for our new future...this foundation will be strong and will support us no matter what happens in the future. With or without our spouse. Gal is a cornerstone to this foundation... Finding out what makes us happy and makes our lives enjoyable again.

It is time to really start to love and respect ourselves more and start to treat yourself like you deserve to be. Start to ask ourselves what do we need today to be happy and to do it.

I printed that lighthouse story you like and have read it 30x at least...I like it a lot. You are a beacon of hope to all of us for how strong you've been.

Z

[Cherry]

I agree just keep doing your own thing, be polite with him and so on if he comes to you chatting- this is a very positive sign. In my opinion, it's important that the actual interactions and time they spend with us- we are relaxed, happy, positive. And when you make these changes I truly believe they stay with you. I still keep doing the actions of DBing even though we are piecing.
And zephyr, can I just say I'm glad you read the lighthouse story too. That would get me through many a tough day- I still read it occasionally.

Stay strong, praying for you!!

[Elly4]

Zephyr, thank you so much for your response. I have been GALing, but I'm not sure I've really been thinking about what makes me happy in the long way. I've truly still been living moment to moment. Maybe I should start thinking about some goals that are a little more long term. Hmm...what does make Eirinn happy? Thanks for the thinking prompt!

It's funny that whenever says I'm strong, I immediately deny it. I don't feel strong. I just feel like I'm surviving in a chaotic time. Again, an area that I should look closer at.

I'm so glad you like the lighthouse story. I still read it almost daily!

*hugs*
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[Elly4]

Cherry, thanks for taking the time to drop a line. I feel like sometimes we know what we should do in our heads, but our hearts just want to do something else. In that situation, I post on here. I so wanted to continue the conversation with my H, but I didn't. I did stay light and positive and it was one of the better good nights we have had a long time.

It's nice to see some positives, but then I try to mind read and wonder is he just being nice because I'm giving him what he wants..ie distance and no questions? Who knows. I know I don't and I'm not supposed to be guessing.

Thanks again for encouraging me and praying for me. Whenever anyone in my life around here asks me what they can do, I tell them to pray for us. So thank you!


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[Elly4]

So one of my 180s failed tonight, at least this time. H let me know he was going to be late coming home, so I decided to come up with a plan for supper and start it. I used to just let him deal with it. Other times it has seemed like he has appreciated that. Tonight it was like I ruined his day.

Sigh.

[MrBond]

As hard as it is, try not to take it personally. You tried helping him, that was a good thing. He has a choice whether to appreciate it or not. It doesn't make what YOU did any less valued.

[Bob723]

Yes Eirinn, we need to keep moving in a direction that we need to go and not let the good or bad spots control us. We nees to start living our lives for us. We need to keep laying the foundation for our new future...this foundation will be strong and will support us no matter what happens in the future. With or without our spouse. Gal is a cornerstone to this foundation... Finding out what makes us happy and makes our lives enjoyable again.

Hello Eirinn,

First, thank you for the recent post in my thread. I also saw your reply yesterday where you wrote that I always make you smile. Good!!! That's kind of you to say.

Also, you were right about Zephyr's post.

Zephyr, very inspiring!

Take care all.

Bob