WAW Filed for Divorce Next Day Pt. 3 (Bob)

[TenBook]

I dunno Bob. How about you pay the bill and don't expect a single damn thing about it from your WAW. Don't even tell her or hint about it.

Zero expectations. Just something to tidy off the list and put your mind at ease.

Can you do that? Or by paying it or reminding her... you are expecting something secretly back? If that is the case. Don't pay it. Send her a message like this.

"This is your bill. I am not paying it".

And never speak or respond to it again.

[Bob723]

TB,

Thank you so much! You gave 2 very good options.

I'm thinking about them and appreciate the advice.

How are you doing?

Bob

[TenBook]

Hi Bob. Not to hijack your thread but I'm working on our separation and finance agreements. Popping by the forum often to see if there are anyone in need.

[mahhhty]

Bob... You blew through 6 pages in what 4 days. That is a testament to you and the impact you have on the people around you.

Now as for the phone. It is minuscule in the grand scheme. Pay the bill, then tell W that it will be the last time you pay the bill and that you would like her to cancel the bill/phone line/etc. Then stand tall.

[Bob723]

TenBook,

You are so kind! You're not hijacking my thread, I asked you how you were doing in my thread, so you did the right thing.

I'm really sorry to hear that you're working on your separation and finance agreements. I know it is not fun. I'm sure you could think of 1 million things you'd rather be doing.

Hang in there, please....

I'll have to check in on your thread.

Bob

[Bob723]

Bob... You blew through 6 pages in what 4 days. That is a testament to you and the impact you have on the people around you.

Now as for the phone. It is minuscule in the grand scheme. Pay the bill, then tell W that it will be the last time you pay the bill and that you would like her to cancel the bill/phone line/etc. Then stand tall.

Mahhhty,

Wow, thank you so much, you are too kind. And thanks as always for popping in on my sitch.

You are right -- It is minuscule in the grand scheme. It seems like the concensus is to pay the darn bill (it has finally been cancelled) but I may not even let my W know.

I thought TenBook had a good point, too: "How about you pay the bill and don't expect a single damn thing about it from your WAW. Don't even tell her or hint about it."

It kind of fits my mantra for the last few days "Say little...do much."

Mahhhty, I'd like you to know that your efforts to help me have not gone unnoticed. I dedicate a prayer to you every night. (Well, some nights I might fall asleep before completing them all-but I try!) Why? It's to thank God for your help and also that He helps you with your situation and continues to give you strength to move forward.

Take care of yourself.

Bob

[Smothy]

I would agree with Mahhhty, re bill. But I would not say anything until she ask you to pay something else then it would be that was the last time etc....

It's hard to go between the lines of doing what is fair/ right and not being a doormat.

[Bob723]

Thank you so much, Smothy! I agree with you.

Hang tough.

Bob

[Cadet]

Not to be au contraire but will you pay my phone bill too?

This is a business decision only, treat it that way.

Take the emotion out of the decision and also the expectations, pay it or dont, however I would trust your lawyers advice.

Legally you will be responsible for half the bill and will give up half your assets.

[Bob723]

Not to be au contraire but will you pay my phone bill too?

Hello Cadet,

Thanks for making me laugh.

Thank you also for checking in and the good advice and reminder.

I hope the rest of your Sunday is a pleasant one.

Bob