Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
Did you notice Cadet's post? It's on the previous page. She wrote thet she hoped I didn't reply. I still have not.
Cadet is a GUY and I am a GIRL. Hope that clears it up for you.
Hi Wonka,
Yes, I know you are a woman. I've known that since you started checking in with me because of your signature. I must be flipping out. I was wondering why you brought this up.
Now I see, I wrote: "I know, Wonka is really good! I just read and replied to his post."
I am SO sorry and embarrassed. I had mostly men, other than Toots, responding. Still, no excuses, my bad!
And yes, I did see Cadet's latest post.
Thank you Wonka.
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
One very important detail I left out about my wife's reply text is that the account is in her name. Also, my lawyer recommended many weeks ago that I not pay it. It was for a landline we still had, and I had been asking my W to cancel it since November. I made one payment after she left, and then sometimes she would forward me the bill late (reminder that she moved and lives 3 1/2 hours away) and other times she wouldn't even bother. Now I think the bill is close to $300.
I'm the type that always wants to do the right thing. I suppose I could pay it, but where will that get me? Won't I look like a doormat to my wife?
Wonka and All, of course you had no way of knowing all of this. I was so hurt by the way she responded that I didn't even think to add all that detail.
So everyone, now what do you think I should do? I still haven't replied and I haven't heard back from her since last night.
So it's handy, here's her text again: Bob - you need to call AT&T and pay the rest of the bill.
Send help now! LOL
Thank you all so much.
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
Oh, and SO sorry Cadet, too! How did I get my genders so mixed up?
What a knuckle-head I am.
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
One very important detail I left out about my wife's reply text is that the account is in her name. Also, my lawyer recommended many weeks ago that I not pay it.
Yes that is important.
So this land line is in the house you live in but is in her name? Have you tried to cancel the account? I am assuming you can not. I think sending her a message that she needs to cancel the account is more appropriate.
You beat me here! Yeah, I was thinking along the same lines as you did.
Bob,
It is so so important to give out as much detail here as you can because we all go by with what people write here. I'm glad you came back with some additional information. With that in mind, please disregard my suggested response.
Just my take Bob , pay the bill , inform W and cancel the phone. If W has to cancel it , inform her that bill is paid and that's you finished with it.
again, just my point of view but this needs to be sorted but at the same time without the impression of being petty
You doing great Bob and remember that Rome was not built in a day,
Thanks for the support on my thread Take care mate. Rd
Actually, I like this approach as it is trying to keep the road back home paved smooth. It does make sense when it is presented in this way. Now use the suggested response and be done with it! Hit that "send" button, Bob.
