Put one foot in front of the other

[Elly4]

New thread as I think mine will lock soon

Here's my last one. http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2556592&page=1

[Elly4]

I love it that as I go past my Hs room to go downstairs I notice his light on but coming back upstairs it's off. It's like he's a kid that's been caught reading under the covers. I don't even say anything!! A few minutes later I go out to get my water and the same thing happens.

[Cadet]

It's like he's a kid that's been caught reading under the covers.

So how old do you think this kid is?

Part of an MLC is seeing the children emerge from them.
I think you are seeing it right here.

[Elly4]

I'm guessing 7 or 8, Cadet. :P

[Elly4]

Cherry, I liked reading the Lighthouse too. Might have to make a habit of reading it at night before I go to sleep.

[Cadet]

I'm guessing 7 or 8, Cadet. :P

So would this describe it?

Psychosocial Stage 4 - Industry vs. Inferiority

This stage covers the early school years from approximately age 5 to 11.
Through social interactions, children begin to develop a sense of pride in their accomplishments and abilities.
Children who are encouraged and commended by parents and teachers develop a feeling of competence and belief in their skills. Those who receive little or no encouragement from parents, teachers, or peers will doubt their abilities to be successful.
Successfully finding a balance at this stage of psychosocial development leads to the strength known as competence or a belief our own abilities to handle the tasks set before us.

It is very possible that something around this age happened to him and stopped his growing up process.
So he has returned to this time to finish it now.

Really doesnt change anything for us, but
it might help you understand what he is going through.

[Elly4]

Could be, Cadet His father left at age 5 and his mom, although nice, is emotionally distant and not a praise person.

He took his ring off today. Feel like I got punched. Not sure why as he's been clear in his intentions. Just really hurts.

[Zephyr]

The wedding ring is so weird. It is always a great debate here. My wife took hers off 2 1/2 years ago, maybe a little longer. She said that it didn't fit anymore because she had lost so much weight back then. Told her that they could be adjusted and she just said she didn't want to spend the money. It bugged me for a long time. Finally a year later i encouraged her to go with me to a jeweler and have her solitaire engagement ring used to make a new ring...new begining for our marriage (how dumb was I). It is awesome and i was very happy that she still wears it. It is still not the same as that little band. Why??? I tool my ring off last June and gave only worn it a few days since. I just didn't feel married.

[Elly4]

Having a really tough time tonight. Keep trying to figure what I did that was so wrong that this would happen to me. I know that's not even close to true. I know it's all him intellectually but emotionally I'm spinning.

[Cadet]

Keep trying to figure what I did that was so wrong that this would happen to me.

I know that's not even close to true.
I know it's all him intellectually but emotionally I'm spinning.

Asked and answered
No need for me to tell you that the only thing you may have done wrong is NOTHING