((((( ))))) or {{{{{{ }}}}}} = hugs! 180 = Another Technique In DB 4Cs - Cool, Calm, Collected and Confident ACOA = Adult Child of an Alcoholic ADDY = Address: Email, Snail Mail, Home, Office AOBM = Alien on Break Moment AOM = Almost Other Man AOS = Acts of Service AP = Affair Partner APT = Apartment ATTY = Attorney AWGTCHM = Michele's book, A Woman's Guide to Changing Her Man BB = Bulletin Board BD = Bomb Drop Big D = Divorce BIL = Brother-in-law BTO = Big time operator BTW = By The Way D = Divorce Or Daughter DB = Divorce Busting (Techniques and book by Michele) DB'ers = Divorce Busters (People At This Site) DB'n = Divorce Busting (the technique) Dbing = Divorce Busting (the technique) DD = Darling Daughter DH = Dear Husband or Deadbeat Husband DITHL = deer in the headlights DR = "The Divorce Remedy" (Techniques and book by Michele) EA = Emotional affair EOM = Emotional Other Many F2F = Face to Face FAQ = Frequently Answered Questions FN forum = For Newcomers forum FOO = Family Of Origin FWIW = For What Its Worth FYI = For Your Information GAL = Get A Life (aka "Make Yourself Happy For A Change") Going Dark = no contact. GH = Ghost Husband (Not Really Here Any More) GW = Ghost Wife (Not Really Here Any More) H = Husband HD = High Desire HEA = Happily Ever After HOM = Hold Onto Myself HP = His or her place HTH = Hope This Helped HW = Home-Wrecker IAE = In Any Event IC = Individual Counselor (or counselling) ICQ = A chat system which stands for, "I seek you". ILY = I Love You ILYBNILWY = I love you but not in love with you IM = Instant Message IMHO = In My Humble Opinion INS Forum = I Need Support Forum IOW = In Other Words KLA = Michele's Keeping Love Alive audio program KLA forum = Keeping Love Alive Discussion Group forum KWIM = Know what I mean LBS = Left Behind Spouse LD = Low Desire LDEA long distance emotional affair LF = Lady Friend LL = Love Languages LMAO = Laughing My A$$ Off LOL = Laughing Out Loud LR = Last Resort (technique in DB) LRT = Last Resort Technique (What to do when all else fails)Explained in detail on page 177 in Michele's "Divorce Busting" book MBR = = Master Bed Room MF = Man Friend MFC = Messenger 1st Class MIL = Mother-in-law ML = Making Love MLC = Midlife Crisis MP = My Place MR = marriage relationship NML = No man's land M/V = From the book, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus NPA = Not particularly attractive NRG = Energy OEA = Online Emotional Affair OG = Other Guy OM = Other man OOM = Online Other Man OOW = Online Other Women OP = Other Person OR = Our Relationship OTT = Over the top OW, Ow = Other Woman PA = Physical Affair PG = Pregnant PMA = Positive Mental Attitude POV = Point Of View POW= potential OW PWAS=potential walk away spouse PT = Physical Touch PTSD = Post-traumatic stress disorder QT = Quality Time R = Relationship RBTL = Read Between The Lines RIR = Room I Rent ROFL = Rolls On Floor Laughing S = Son SAFE = Stay Away From Ex SAM = silly alien monkey SBT = Solution-oriented Brief Therapy (kind of therapy Michele does) SIL = Sister-in-law SIT or SITCH = Situation SITD = Still In The Dark SO = Significant Other SL = Sex Life SOB = Son of a Bitch SSM = Sex Starved Marriage, MWD wrote a few books about it & their is a forum here for that issue. SSW = Sisterhood of Separate Women (variations could be SDW, SSM, SDM, etc.) STBW - Soon to be wife STBX = Soon To Be EX STBXOM = Soon to be ex-other man (or guy) STBXOW = Soon to be ex-other women STFU = Shut the %@#$ up, get duct tape & put it over your mouth TBH = to be honest TMI = Too much information UCL = Unconditional Love W = Wife w/ = With WAS = Walk Away Spouse WAW = Walk Away Wife (a syndrome Michele explains in her article on this site) WB = Write Back WOA = Words of Affirmation WP = Warrior Princess WTF = What the…, Why the…, When the…, Where the…, WTG = Way To Go WW = Wayward Wife 2x4 = whack, wake up and listen cause a big piece of lumber just hit you in the head
M: 8 years, together 9 M: 41 W: 32 D 4, S 6 ILYBINILWY 2/10/15 2/14/15-2/22/15 Left home 4/5/15 Suspect A, Initiated Sandi's advice from WW thread 4/19/15 W asked for D
M30 - W29 - S1.5 EA/PA Confirmed - Oct 30, 2015 Confronted W about the A - Nov 1, 2015 W asked for seperation - Nov 22, 2015 W moves out of house - Jan 3rd, 2016
Me:41 - LBH in apt W:39 - WW in home Kids:D(15), D(11), S(9) - custody % 58/42 M: 15 yrs - DoS: 10-11-15 (PA confirmed 2-12-16; WW dumped by AP 11-6-15; WW dated 7-8 men in Jan '16 via Match.com)
M 21 years XW 43yo, me 41 yo S13 BD March 2016 - she asked me to patient... End of June - I started the D process. D final 2/23/17 "He who forgets will be destined to remember" Eddie Vedder
Piecing means what? One is trying to piece back the marriage? DB but marriage is still in limbo?
Their is a separate forum for piecing but yes it means to try to put your marriage back together after both parties have agreed to this objective. Many times we see one person try to attempt this by themselves and that will usually result in failure. Best to continue to DB until you begin to piece.
This was all very helpful to understanding this place. Thank you for explaining it. I think I misread a number of things while trying to figure out the abbreviations.
"There is no more important fight than the one for ourselves. Keep on winning." Ginger1, Read her newbies. BD: Feb '16 D: Mar '17 Piecing: Putting the self back together was my piecing. S6
Can anyone explain the difference between a WAS and a WAW?
Walk away Wive Walk away Spouse.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.
Yeah. I have seen that repeatedly and have no clue either.
W 34 Me 42 Married 7 years together 8 0 kids 1 beloved dog BD 4/6/2018 I moved out 4/7/2018 I moved back in alone 8/05/2018 I file 3/06/2019 D official 5/7/2019
05/2018: H says "ILYBNILWY", BD 07/2018: Discovered A, confronted 09/2018: PA + other details emerge; H moved out 12/2018: I filed 03/2019: Divorce finalized
CAGD = Cr@p. At. Going. Dark. = One who struggles to "Go Dark," as defined by author MWD.
CAGD has been coined by our lovely LBWs in June of 2019, who all share a similar struggle of noting when their cohorts should be going dark, however they just can't seem to execute it in their own situation. You ladies are the best :-)
Blu
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela
Could be overdose or odd duck. Where did you see this? I can then try to figure it out for you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
It could be from OwnIt's thread. My understanding is that it's just her name for her STBX.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
Andrew, that is correct. It is not an abbreviation for the forum, but a personal nickname for OwnIt's husband.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
What is 'Ring' as in 'Ring and piecing'? Piecing is explained halfway through this thread but I can't find 'ring'.
Or does it mean doing 'R' (R???ing)?
Originally Posted by Cadet
Originally Posted by jmo
Piecing means what? One is trying to piece back the marriage? DB but marriage is still in limbo?
Their is a separate forum for piecing but yes it means to try to put your marriage back together after both parties have agreed to this objective. Many times we see one person try to attempt this by themselves and that will usually result in failure. Best to continue to DB until you begin to piece.
What is your question? If you are referring to what OnlyBent has in the title of his thread, then he is referring to himself as OB.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
