Hi Toots. If your H noted the tenderness after BD the. I wouldn't pin to much on yourself re the dressing part. I sometimes think we all think we need to be perfect to get WAS to comeback. While my own sitch was caused by both myself and W , I took all the blame at the start Im far from perfect and never will be but at the sametime I would consider myself a ". Good guy " in a lot of ways.
Like us all I'm sure you are putting in the work to improve as a person and hopefully for an R with your H but at the same time those improvements are for you first and foremost.
RD, it's kind of you to say that. It has been bothering me - but it is true, I was a loving, loyal and faithful wife which counts for a lot. There are always things I can do better, and I do feel I have come a long way in terms of understanding relationships, communication and so on. I shan't go out and buy those lace up thigh boots then!
Quietish day for me. I did some work from home and visited my Mum in respite care this afternoon. She seemed happy and the staff there are lovely. Tomorrow I'm working away, so that will be a busy one. We're having lunch out as someone is leaving. I was offered some more work yesterday by another old boss, which I had to turn down - but it's nice to get the offers!
All quiet from H and I'm thinking I will probably just leave it. I thought about dropping him a text about something else. But it isn't really needed, and would just be pursuit on my part - just trying to remind him, or poke the bear as Wonka would say...."I'm here H, and you haven't come back to me on that little matter of whether we are going to D or not!"
Other than that, just the usual things this week - yoga GAL, bookstore GAL and so on. Next week I plan to go to my first Ceroc class after the workshop this weekend. Some people that I met already go to that class, so hopefully there will be familiar faces. Incidentally, a few people have already mentioned Ceroc, and I really do recommend it as a good GAL activity. There is a friendly culture, and they are so welcoming and encouraging to beginners. It's a good way of meeting people of both genders in a relaxed environment. And it's world wide from what I could see....
Hope you're all having a good start to the week :-)
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T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
Busy day at work today. Up early and on the road, then in and out of meetings. Just relaxing now and catching up with the forum.
I texted H today. He had forwarded a bunch of my post and I thanked him. He replied, saying he was sorry he hadn't yet responded to my email. He said he is slow these days, but will email me tomorrow.
I'll see what tomorrow brings, but I have no positive expectations really. I'll keep you posted....
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
I have my fingers crossed for you that you do get an email tomorrow. The waiting must feel like forever but you seem to have handled it well. Fingers crossed also you get the answer you want.
Alpha
BD - 30TH JAN 2015 S - 30TH JAN 2015 PA CONFIRMED - 16TH FEB 2015 (SINCE AT LEAST OCT 2014) CONTINUAL TALK OF D ME: 31 W: 28 T: 10yrs M: 4.5yrs D:5, S:6
Your H seems like he is still very deep in the fog.
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction
Hope tomorrow brings you answers and happiness, as you've oft' said to me no expectations is the way to go
(((((Toots)))))
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015
Aw - thanks you guys for the various comments and hugs. It's much appreciated. I feel a bit tearful and emotional this morning. I certainly don't have positive expectations today. More a sense of waiting for the guillotine to fall. That's not great either I know, and I should just try to keep any expectations to neutral. I'll do my best.
Twin, I think you are right. Things are still foggy, and I guess that's why I feel the way I do. Not hopeless as such, but realistic that the tide doesn't seem to be turning in favour of me and our marriage just now.
Jim, no the job hasn't started yet. But it looks as though it may be advertised next week, so I'll keep you posted. Probably my new working regime will start later this month. I'll be working from home today, and later going to see Mum in respite on the way to yoga GAL this evening. Looks like a nice spring day outside, but it's probably freezing!
Have a good day all xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
