Then came some conversation by text. Then later after work when I reply nothing.
So the pattern is text and talk when there is no chance of catch up, then when the pressure might be on, he's out.
So possible reasons all add up to not that interested, or in no rush. Seems odd to me, most guys would want to be out on there weekend getting to know the prospective new gf right? Rather than give her time to see another?
We shall see what this weekend brings, if it's what I'm expecting then he's history. Smelling like plan b to me, and I ve been there once. Blerk
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
Could just be scared I dont know the history maybe worried about falling for someone too fast? Having said that you need to know you're important and starting off with having to help fix previous issues may not be where you want to be either.
As you say see how it goes and how you feel matey
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015
He's only been med/short term r. No marriage, gf decided to leave last year and return overseas. Just before christmas.
So about 2 months post break up. He did however move interstate because of her, so I suspect quite attached and serrious for him.
It's funny almost feeling like an ow! Lol when there isn't one. Unless he's got plan a and then gg is plan b? Hence he's not contacting and only responding at certain times?
Too much rumination for a new casual r. Been doing what fgm says and keeping the water up to the other seeds! Lol so who knows where things end or what might happen.
Let's just sprinkle round some water and see what grows.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
And brd seems to be drinking, mmmmmm xh1 was a drinker.
Stbx was a mild drinker but when I worked later he could have been drinking more than I knew. I often wasn't there In the afternoon and evenings.
So thrown my hands up at brd, as today seemed a bit all over was fine first thing then later didn't want to know me. Not sure what I did sooooooo meh, combine that with drinking, not contacting or stepping up.
Seems one of the bosses at my main work is single and cute, new one whom arrived recently. I had been looking but went shame it's partnered. Seems gg was wrong again. Work bestie kept it under her hat well that one
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
Made some decisions, I will not ask anyone out again! Seriously it doesn't end well. For now they can ask me, they can do some basic leg work. Bascially I will, say yes to anyone who asks, as being out gal is better with anyone than home alone. Who knows I might end up with a few more friends.
I'm tired, have stacks to do like driveway repairs, loads of rocks and gavel by hand onto the ute. Dating can go hang.
Going to meet interstate bestie next weekend. Got plans for a few weeks in advance. got motivated by this weekends guests. Back in my "fill the rubbish bin" quest to clean up the clutter round the joint.
Did baked lamb for guests, not the lambie. Had a good time. Realised since s17 had left I've been slacking in a few things. His room is now useable as a guest room. Shoved all his crapola in the cupboards, threw out the rug he insisted on having which was rubbish and made the room ok for someone else to sleep in.
Bin will go tomorrow completely full. Big thumbs up. Achieved so much today with my guest things that I need help with and put off, not hard things but much easier with help.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
Now now, Gg. Never say never! Maybe it just wasn't to be? Or not enough time? Surely this whole situation has taught you that you can't predict the future!
Last edited by ganb8te; 03/23/1511:38 AM.
H 37 Me 36 Together 15 years Married 5 years No kids BD Apr 2014 H moved out 2 Jun 2014
Work besties bestie came in, he's funny and does treat me like wb. Which is nice to be treated like a normal human. We have farm stuff in common so it's like talking to a gf.
The plan is water all the seeds that are out there treat people well and as friends eventually something will come my way.
Perhaps I'm pushing to much impatience, without meaning to. The thing is double standards with bloke and women just annoys me. Blokes are expected to pick up without feeling without strings, but women are frowned on.
I just want some icing not long term per say but just occasionally would be ok!
I need a break from the frustration. Brd is all over the shop not just with me, so I wasn't taking it personal, now even less so.
Sides any one of the dudes I have an eye on would be ok. Bit tough to have a choice, first time in recorded history.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
Glad your making progress on sorting stuff out and getting the house suitable for visitors is always a good plan. I need to follow that example especially as I think my stuff is far more straightforward.
So BRD not that great then? If your seeing issues already then thats not the best sign, but try not to project you H's flaws. Doubt that's what your doing but still...
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
just playing catch up here as the weekend was(as you will see in my thread) a busy one. You sound like you're feeling a little disheartened there don't be. BRD may or may not be someone you want to spend time with but leave him be for now, may well be he comes back toward you more or not but as I hope you let me point out (as my mr Fixit can be a rampaging monster) neither you or I seem to be the sort who would find it best to start off with a partner with issues that potentially need fixing in a new relationship, only you know for sure though, use your gut feeling.
For now looks like taking a break is a good plan but dont take it as a negative, may well find a new opportunity presents itself. Go with the flow you're much better at that then me
As to the work good on you, sounds like that was a hell of a job and hell of a workout as well, m&m's may even be called for as a treat! All for a decorative refresh inside as well, nothing like changing up what you see every day to get a fresh perspective.
Take it easy Gg, remember how fab you are!
Cheers
Edz
Last edited by edz; 03/23/1512:59 PM.
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015
That's not projecting on brd, he's bought quiet a lot of alcahol this week. Actions.
He been hot and cold with texting, no more dates. Just one.
Today well seems xh1 who refused to answer text about s17, has been prepping s17 to get welfare. Hence s17 phoned today, suprise.
That nice lull was softening up for more demands for money, but I'm not sure he will receive much. Given I have nasty text from him. Again today lots of swearing and carrying on about how bad I am. How I don't understand how tough it is to get work. Um let's see a couple of years ago I found myself again searching for work, at 42 I know how hard it is.
Can't wait till he reaches that magic age where he knows what the rest of us do, not everything!
Been a bit low, and had a little eye leak at work on lunch. I'm tired of being tired and it not being my time. I'm tired of not much going my way....
And it was a very lonely pity party! Just kicked myself and went hard this arvo. Cute dude came in but really didn't have time to talk. Also didn't feel like it, it was an effort.
Hence I do think giving things a break and waiting for stuff to come my way rather than pushing is needed right now.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
when there isn't one. 