I'm so pleased you have met a nice guy. I have heard the "3rd date=sex" legend from my brothers, but they admit that's really a GUY's wish list, and of course they also said that if they really like the girl, they take it more slowly.
Makes sense to me. ML is such an intimate act. I have had several girlfriends actually sleep with guys too early and then not want to see them again.
Here's the thing I liken it to, and you may really grasp it since you are a nurse.
Last year I had a surgery on a broken tibia, which turned out to be sort of a big deal. Very painful, and 4 days in a hospital with a bone graft, zero mobility, etc.
I LOVED my nursing staff. OMG best experience I've had in a hospital even though it was the most painful.
One nurse in particular, really connected with me. I instantly thought "wow, we could hang out". I really really liked her. By far my favorite, which was saying a lot.
THEN SHE GAVE ME A SPONGE BATH....OMG, I felt so vulnerable and mortified.
I guess it was just tooooooo intimate, you know?
(So now, she's dead to me...
Point is, I think sex too early in a R is sort of like that. Too much too soon, and it can actually cost a relationship.
Whereas I have never heard of Not rushing things, being harmful. Good for you.
Coincidentally, I know 2 nurses married to firefighters. I think there's a good commonality.
Good luck, stay the course and ENJOY whatever comes.
No strings or expectations attached, just hopes for decent companionship. As long as that is the goal (for NOW), then it seems pretty low risk, don't you think?
And So, what was the movie?
Last edited by 25yearsmlc; 02/16/1508:16 PM.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Thanks for your support and words of wisdom. Always love to hear from you.
My Mum always used to say too quick to flame , quick to fizzle. I agree. I don't want to form attachments to someone until I really get to know them. Plus I know myself well enough to know I will get scared and run if it's feeling like too much too soon. Fortunately he is behaving very respectfully.
We didn't even end up watching s movie. We shared a bottle of wine and talked for three hours! Lol I had candles lite and nice music playing. It was a lovely evening.
I am just enjoying the moment for now and not looking too far ahead.
I loved your bed bath analogy!
Me 52 H 44 T9 M 5 BD 12/11 H split 8/12 OW moved in 12/12 OW gone for good 6/14 We get closer again 9/14 SD 13 Me 4 Grown
Accept what is...let go of what was and have faith in what will be.
M 53 W 44 D25 D20 S22 PA 10/95 BD abt 2k EA BD 9/2004 PA D'd 1/05/05 DB'd 9/2004-08 PA ends 02/2005 XW rehab 03/2005 piecing until OM3 June?/2005 Remarried 12/28/07 BD 12/18/14 Sep living together
So the new man in my life has been texting me at least three times a day. Usually checking in to see how my day is going. I usually wait and respond to his texts.
As you know we both work shift work. He was off as of Wed. I am off starting today. although he's been texting frequently he hadn't mentioned getting together so yesterday in response to one of his texts I said. " I'm making plans for my days off so let me know if you want to get together" ( we only have Fri or Sat where we are both off) He replied..." Ok I will let you know" I said ok....it's Friday tomorrow so I will go ahead and make my own plans for the weekend." He texted back and said " hey wait how about Sat? I have a friends bday party Friday. You're not upset with me are you?" I said. " no I'm not upset. I'm just letting you know if you want to see me you will need to ask and plan ahead or I will be busy." I said " I'm an old fashioned modern girl " lol he said " ok got it...amazing old fashioned modern girl."
I got the impression he is used to making his plans like most guys...last min. Assuming he was going to see me without asking or planning. I am keeping my eyes wide open and not ignoring any red flags.
I was at a retirement party for two coworkers. All the girls wanted to see a pic of my new date. They were very impressed. Lol They are all happy for me and glad I have moved forward from my ex.
Will update again after the weekend. Thanks for checking in V. : )
Me 52 H 44 T9 M 5 BD 12/11 H split 8/12 OW moved in 12/12 OW gone for good 6/14 We get closer again 9/14 SD 13 Me 4 Grown
Accept what is...let go of what was and have faith in what will be.
M 53 W 44 D25 D20 S22 PA 10/95 BD abt 2k EA BD 9/2004 PA D'd 1/05/05 DB'd 9/2004-08 PA ends 02/2005 XW rehab 03/2005 piecing until OM3 June?/2005 Remarried 12/28/07 BD 12/18/14 Sep living together
Thanks for all the support. My date has to be postponed as he has a man cold. He did make sure texted me early in the am so I could make other plans. He's paying attention to my boundaries.
I'm off to a convention this week so he will have to wait now to see me.
Tonight I'm going to go for dinner with my SIL. My brother is out of town this weekend. It is Sunny and spring warm here.
Me 52 H 44 T9 M 5 BD 12/11 H split 8/12 OW moved in 12/12 OW gone for good 6/14 We get closer again 9/14 SD 13 Me 4 Grown
Accept what is...let go of what was and have faith in what will be.
