Good job. Do as little as possible for her. Although I have actually done her oil change finally. 4100mi over, I told her no before then she asked again a week later, she very busy I get it. So I told her, 'I'll do it but only bc we will most likely be bankrupt by the end of the year and I don't need us to pay for an engine damage right now'. Plus it got a sensitive topic for her to her very mad, and I don't need any more confrontation right not, it proved that it's not working at all. And i do t know why I felt obliged, maybe bc she is the bread giver and helped me a ton too, plus she doesn't use the vehicle to sleep with OM...
As long as you don't face escalation or so, just don't do sht for her! Especially she being with OM...hell no.
Me 32 (German) Wife 28 T 3yrs M 2yrs Moved to US for W No kids BD 6/2014 In house separation Confirmed EA 1/2015 (ongoing since BD) OM not ready Real D talk started 1/27/15
I am doing my best; most everything i do is for me. I will back off the car and make her pay for it. And once i get a consensus about my email response i will send that and decline the scooter. i have to be honest it kinda feels good to do alot of things around the house on my own. and i dont think she expected me to do those things. On the flip side she is expecting to come over this friday and groom the dogs! should i allow her to or should i groom them myself and cut her off at the pass. this has always been her job and they are both our dogs. but since i kicked her out i am the sole care taker accept for those 1 hour visits during the week. just curious as to how i should play that card. I am thinking it would be nice for the dogs to spend more time with her. they really do miss her. and i can tell they are missing her. so trying to look at what is best for them and not so much me putting it to her. what do you all think?
I thought you were separated so how is her washing ending up with yours?
As we're still in same house I'm just doing washing as usual Mine d8 and wife. Would be pretty petty to separate out my own. Just not worth the argument.
Would I fix her car though when I'm gone or do her washing. Absolutely not. No way. I'm wondering what she might still be expecting me to do when I'm gone. Wouldn't be surprised if she asks me to chop the wood for the fire. Lol
Me:40 W:35 D:8 T:13 M:10 WAW: 7/14 PA Discovered: 1/15 at least 6 months Moved out and moved on
she comes over from 5-6pm most days to see the dogs while i leave the house, before coming over she goes to the gym to do her exercise routine. so when she comes to the house she will throw the dirty cloths in the washer but not wash them since its usually only a few items. then when i get dirty cloths i throw them in and wash hers along with mine.
i understand but don't you think that is a bit petty. I know i am suppose to be independent and strong but a few pieces of cloths. its not like she brings her entire wardrobe to the house. but maybe i am wrong and i will have to stop it.
I would maybe cut her back to two or three visits a week. BGPs. "______, considering where we are right now I think it might be best if you only came by a few days a week to see the dogs. At some point we may end up apart, and I don't want that to be too abrupt for them, y'know?"
maybe it is petty? Maybe it's her just having that one last little bit of control? I don't know. I Read into everything my wife says and does now. I don't believe any of her motives are for any other purpose than making her feel better. Maybe I'm just losing the plot 😁
Me:40 W:35 D:8 T:13 M:10 WAW: 7/14 PA Discovered: 1/15 at least 6 months Moved out and moved on
I have been giving that allot of thought. The problem is she would probably take the dogs if we split. Being in the military unless i am a certain rank i would not be able to keep them if we are to Split for good. What did you think about my response to her email starsky?
