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Mach1 #2537631 02/12/15 09:47 PM
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Originally Posted By: cat04

The post is great. I always worry about overwhelming newcomers. And IMO, this is getting close...

Maybe only mention one version of the book to keep confusion down.


Yes....because there is seldom any confusion over here in MLC :P




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NEWCOMERS FORUM

Welcome to the board

Sorry you are here but you will meet some wonderful people here and get some great advice.

he first thing you should do is be sure to read the Divorce Remedy (DR) book by MWD
http://www.mcssl.com/store/mwdtc2014/
http://divorcebusting.com/sample_book_chapters.htm

You may be on moderation now, post in small frequent replies and stay on this thread until you reach 100 posts
(for your thread, you can also post on other peoples threads to give support).
Especially on this Newcomers forum, where the posting activity is very active,
and your posts can quickly fall to the bottom of the page or even several pages down.
Keep journaling and asking questions - people will come!
Most important - POST!

Get out and Get a Life (GAL).

DETACH.


Believe none of what he or she says and half of what he/she does.

Have NO EXPECTATIONS.

Take care of yourself, breathe, eat, sleep, exercise.

Take the parts of this advice that you need and don't worry if I have repeated something that you have already done.

Here are a few links to threads that will help you immensely:

I would start with the going dark link.
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=50956#Post5095

Sandi's Rules: A list of dos and don'ts for the LBS (left behind spouse)
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2380415&page=1

Detachment thread
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2537289#Post2537289

Validation Cheat Sheet: Techniques and tips on how to validate (showing your walk away spouse(WAS) that you recognize and accept his or her opinions as valid, even if you do not agree with them)
(http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2534754&page=1).

Boundaries Cheat Sheet
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2536096#Post2536096

Abbreviations
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2183063&fpart=1

Stages of the LBS
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1964990&page=1

Validation
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=191764#Post191764

Pursuit and Distance
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2483574#Post2483574

The Lighthouse Story
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2484619#Post2484619

Your H or W is giving you a GIFT.
THE GIFT OF TIME.
USE it wisely.

Knowledge is Power - Sir Francis Bacon


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Cadet,
It looks fine.

I want to say "thank you" for all of the work you do for the forum. You put in a lot of your time, not only helping others, but also consolidating all of the helpful links for posters. People tend to forget that you come here, just as we all do, searching for answers and providing advice whenever you can.

You should be promoted to a moderator!

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Cadet,
It looks fine.

I want to say "thank you" for all of the work you do for the forum. You put in a lot of your time, not only helping others, but also consolidating all of the helpful links for posters. People tend to forget that you come here, just as we all do, searching for answers and providing advice whenever you can.

You should be promoted to a moderator!


x2

I actually had to look at that.... I always thought cadet was a mod.


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I think Cadet should be given the title of Ambassador!
(or "DB Ambassador")

C'mon mods and admins, how 'bout it? Hit "Notify" on this post and 2nd it if you agree! grin


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Originally Posted By: Starsky309
I think Cadet should be given the title of Ambassador!
(or "DB Ambassador")

C'mon mods and admins, how 'bout it? Hit "Notify" on this post and 2nd it if you agree! grin


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Originally Posted By: Starsky309
I think Cadet should be given the title of Ambassador!
(or "DB Ambassador")

C'mon mods and admins, how 'bout it? Hit "Notify" on this post and 2nd it if you agree! grin


Starsky

I guess I could change my name...... grin grin grin


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