And then I have concern over the "support" she'll be offered by her Aunt/Uncle/Cousin she'll be with. I'm certain (as she lies to me, and I can assume her parents at this point) that she'll give her version of what's going on...skipping things like the EA and replacing it with "I just dont love him". It will be easier to tell a story, than to admit a truth. How does one battle that? Phew this is hard. She admitted today (I've been getting text by my female boss at work about mine, AND her similar situation) that she checked my msgs this morning "Oh is JULIE now giving you advice??? Unbelievable.
"Sometimes, if ones' words are not better than silence, once should be silent."
What do you feel guilty about? Taking a strong stand that makes her cry?
Try to adopt a mindset of -- and even TELL her this, calmly and lovingly when she spews at you -- "I'm sorry you feel that way. Everything I'm doing, I'm doing to try to save our marriage and our family."
I did. She said theres nothing to save. And that all of you, counselors I talked to, are full of $hit and dont know what you're talking about. A bunch of guys that lost and are pining away for their wives and wont give up hope on something hopeless.
"Sometimes, if ones' words are not better than silence, once should be silent."
No no no, not like that. She hasn't been at work for a month, and heard that I was having difriculty at home, asked if I needed time off. She just got out of a bad relationship. I havent told her anything about my sitch, she was just asking. I've had all my bosses send me something.
"Sometimes, if ones' words are not better than silence, once should be silent."
She told me if I move out, she promises she will participate in "shared custody" Up here in Ontario, it basically means, each parent has the children an equal amount of time each month. She wants me to spend as much time with the kids as possible. (Interesting considering today I'm World's Biggest A$$hole).
"Sometimes, if ones' words are not better than silence, once should be silent."
