Don't forget the Boundaries: Cheat Sheet link as well (I suggest that you put it right under the Validation: Cheat Sheet link). I'm not sure if the Lighthouse link is applicable to newbies as it is more appropriate for LBS with MLCers.
Isn't Divorce Remedy book the second edition of the original Divorce Busting book? I bought both and DR essentially covers what DB did in the first edition with new additional information and improved topics.
and Cadet, I think the beginning of your original newbie "moderation" post is better than the one I copied from your MLC welcome post. You ARE on moderation, not you may be. Because they all are right?
I may be missing it listed here, but that Pursuit/Distance post - from job, right? - is a JEWEL, and I find myself referring to it very often. I thought it was lost recently when a link to it was broken, but I was able to find it with a little digging. (Maybe that's bc job re-posted?)
Anyway, I remember being a newbie here (both times - ugh) and feeling like I needed to gobble up as much information as possible. It helped so much to have easily accessible links in different threads, but I had to "stumble" on so many of the real gems. But this? This is a goldmine of information. On behalf of everyone who lands here, thank you for your efforts, Cadet. This is priceless.
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014
I know its in the book but is there a potted version of what detatching is, its so so important and takes a good long time to wrap your head around. Given newcomers won't have the book yet or most likely anyway and its one of tge first things the forum tells them to do (lurkers will have read it again and again as well before posting) it may be helpful to give them a quick idea of what it is and what it isn't?
Good work BTW
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015
I have reposted a detachment article that I provided to makingmagic back in the summer of 2013. It's not only a potted version, but it's grown into a full blooming flower. LOL!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Excellent stuff, Cadet what do you think of adding that in?
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015
