Listen, I'm not the biggest fan of your H right now. I'm pouting. Lol. But this recent small "turn" in him is interesting. And it really speaks to sticking to a new plan for a while before you try to "monitor results."
Even though I know your H buckles under financial pressure and all, I think he's still looking to YOU to see if you have truly made consistent changes in how you handle those issues, too.
Keep it up, T. I love when you're in control of you. And you're on fire right now, baby! Go rock that new 'do!
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014
It's amazing what hair and 10 lbs gone can do for your self esteem. I think this diet I'm on has been making me a little crazy too (calorie deprivation haha). BUT I feel good about my choice for going to dinner because it was my choice. Ya H just decided to drive out without really making sure I was going but I have to take that for what it is and right now that is effort for him. I can't turn that down when he's trying (albeit when I'm 'not available') but it's effort and I'll take it *right now*
I'm not his biggest fan right now either Train but I can't let him know that. I will say his behavior does correlate with my attitude. No mention of going to work at ex boss's this weekend and he was suppoosed to go there last night and then changed his mind to come to dinner instead. So the last 2 weeks he has done 2 nights a week there for 2 hours. I'm great with that.
He's home today and was up and made the kids breakfast so I could sleep in. Pretty sure that's the most sleep I have had in a long time. We are going to do some house projects today at my request and then some more car shopping.
Tonight we are going to take the boys out to dinner and have a fire outside later on.
I feel hopeful today. I totally forgot to throw in H bringing up his lawyer at dinner last night. He said... 'I'll have my lawyer take care of the abatement since I still have money in the account and you don't have any funds left over with yours. I doubt I'll hear from him for awhile anyway.' I think it took me awhile to respond. I said so no divorce? He said I don't want one. luckily our dinner arrived at that point and the subject was changed
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
Hey all.. Just figured I would post some positives so I don't seem like such a negative nancy around this place.
Best weekend we've had in awhile. H has been holding my hand, kissing me frequently, iniating physical touch quite often. We had a great weekend with a lot of fun and laughing. We stayed out late cosmic bowling with the boys last night. Today we did some more car shopping (so ready to be over with that). He offered to grocery shop with me and we went and had lunch with the boys at a restaurant on the water.
Anyway, we are no where near out of the woods but his actions lead me to believe we are in the right direction.
We continue our weekly MC again this week. Our C said he wants to see how this week goes and then may space out our sessions to every other week. He wants to start getting to what lead up to the A and to start working on those issues so that we can be better equipped to handle issues in the future.
