Saving my family - Part 13

[Barrybran]

That's awesome that you've got your band back together. Not much you can do about your wife. Just stay patient and hopefully her attitude towards you will change.

[Scorp7]

Thanks Barry, good to hear from you again! I'm learning levels of patience I didn't think were possible lol.

[Scorp7]

Hello again! I haven't been posting very much for a while now. My life is still a bit crazy. I'm learning to deal with that craziness and not worry about it nearly as much as I did in the past.

I've been living in two provinces since last September. During my week with my kids I make the 4+ hour trip to my Ws town, my kids and I have an apartment there. When the kids go back to Mom I travel back and stay at our acreage, work in the office, pretty much as I always did before D day.

I've had 50/50 time with my kids since May of 2014 and, in my opinion, it's the best thing the kids can hope for when Mom and Dad aren't together. Their lives outside of home don't change but they have two homes instead of one (actually at the moment they have 3 since we still have our acreage and the kids spent their weeks with me in the summer there).

As far as any sort of reconciliation with my W, I won't say I've given up hope. I'm not sure if or when it could ever happen, I only know that I will leave the door open for it to happen for a long time yet.

My W and I have some good weeks and some not so good weeks. She is still being heavily influenced by her Mother (she's still living with her parents). Someday maybe things can change. When I see her each week I try to be as genuinely friendly as I can be. My hope is for us to be friends again someday and then who knows.

[Barrybran]

Good to hear from you again, Scorp. Sounds like a positive update and I'm glad you and the kids are doing well.

[Scorp7]

Thanks Barry! How are things with you these days?

I think, despite everything, I'm doing better personally than I ever have. I still have a ways to go to get to where I want to be. I know I'll get there.

I've got an awful lot to be thankful for

[Barrybran]

I'm in much the same place as you at the moment; doing better personally but a ways to go. I'm glad you can be thankful for what you have.

[Scorp7]

Good to hear you're doing well! I've found that I had to let go of the past.
As much as I want my W back, I can't control what she does, only what I do. The past is gone and will never come back and truthfully I'd never want to go back to being the person I was before.

No matter what happens I know my future will be great, my kids have both their parents and I'm better than I've ever been.

I also think the more positively we think about the future the better our present is AND there's a much better chance for the future to be what we hope it to be.

[Barrybran]

I love your attitude, Scorp. Good things will certainly come from it.