I guess I should clarify- She went back to his place for her "extra night" - so the lime green eyesore won't be making an appearance at my house. No need for anything accidentally on purpose to happen
I was thinking about it last night though. I wonder how it affects the kids when there is a large difference in the "cultures" of the two households.
Enjoying a lovely evening with the girls who are dressed up in their best princess finery and giving the karaoke machine I bought for Christmas a workout.
I spent a productive day coaching BBall. The other team had a 2nd grade ringer who was a foot taller than anyone on my team, and to my vast amusement, the youngest, shortest player on my team, who is a total spitfire, completely neutralized her.
Then it was on to the garden. We are enjoying unseasonably warm weather and had to put the 70 degrees to good use.
And now, a tasty ribeye, while my daughters sing and twirl. In 15 minutes we'll enjoy the chocolate cake they helped to bake.
I know there are a lot of new posters this week. Let me tell you - it does get better. There are headaches and heartaches in my life right now. But it doesn't prevent these happy moments - and I savor them with renewed appreciation.
Heck Yeah! Have I mentioned that despite the fact that STBX "despises" it here - I live in a foothill community (gold rush country) that has just enough of a tourist presence to have great resaurants, lots of wineries and fun antique stores without being pretentious and that maintains small town charm?
We went out to dinner last night and I actually thought "What a nutjob he is for refusing to see how awesome it is here!".
Finishing off a pretty good weekend by filing my taxes. Have been in a fever to get this done for some reason. I can't actually envision STBX stirring up the pot again by trying to change our now signed agreement - but its clear to me he doesn't realize how big of a whammy he is going to take on these going forward.
He texted and asked to talk to the girls this afternoon (he only ever does this while he's on patrol - never from the house with OW). Usually this gets the girls all upset when he has to hang up. Today they were fine, although D6 seemed a little quiet. When I asked how she was doing she said "I'm just sad Daddy decided not to live here anymore and that he broke his promise to you. That was followed by some questions about stepparents. Apparently - word on the playground is that they are a "big pain".
When she says things like that I just want to break his nose. Maybe I should take boxing lessons as a GAL activity ......
Just got a copy of my child support orders and child custody from the lawyer. It has now been filed, signed by a judge and is considered legal and binding.
Massive relief.
I use the term "signed by a judge" loosely. It was literally rubber stamped....which is kind of depressing. And of course- STBX didn't even have to sign- his lawyer signed for him.
When I started this - I just wanted to slow everything down. Now I feel like I can't wait for April to get here for it all to become final- which makes me feel a little guilty.
I am right there with you, raliced! Can't wait for it to be over. Kudos on getting through the paperwork, which can be stressful. I just gave my H the separation agreement and parenting plan and support papers yesterday, waiting for his response. I hope to have everything done by April as well, if all goes smoothly. We've come a long way since six months ago. Thank you for taking this journey with me, and always being there with a kind word of support. It's meant a lot. Don't feel guilty. Be glad that you're ready to take this next step.
M: 43 H: 39 D: 14 Married 15 Together 16 BD: 6/2014 S: 8/2014 OW revealed 10/2014 Instigated dissolution 12/2014, in progress So over it!
