Baby steps, patience and uncertainty

[LITB]

That is a profound post Bug!! Wishing you an amazing new year!!

[labug]

Thanks, LITB.

This was a bit unclear,

...Showing up on time was completely vital in every situation and the chance of me ever being late to practice or class or games was slim to none. I was always the first to everything.

We need that reflection because sometimes we forget. We should celebrate the positives.

[labug]

Yesterday's post was a bit rambling.

I felt the need to distill it.

1. I stopped being a victim.

a. I stopped judging me so harshly and that allowed me to work on
not judging others. I still judge but when it happens, I
remind myself, not my circus...-or ask myself, Did anyone ask
for my help or my opinion?

b. I continue to work toward strong emotional boundaries. I used
to not only feel responsible for others, I also absorbed their
feelings. I was on whatever crazy ride my friend or family
member was on. It kept me in almost constant fight or flight,
very out of balance. If you live with someone with a mental
illness, this is a must but it's important for everyone.

c. I learned to say no. If I'm doing things I don't want to do, I
have no one to blame but myself.

d. I'm learning to say Yes to the right things.

2. I have a right to all my feelings and I take responsibility for all my feelings.

3. I live in today, I let go of the past, I'll take care of tomorrow when it gets here. Do I have long range plans? Sure, a few. Like the trip the end of this month, but I'm not going to worry about the particulars other than what I can control today.

4. I'm working hard to let go of attachments, in the unhealthy sense, to people, places and things.

I think that's it.

[labug]

I knew I'd forget something-I'm brutally honest with myself, not in a judgmental way but in a "what is my role in this" way.

[Rick1963]

It aint the end of the world is right. Love saying that to either or thinkers. Happy New Year Bugsy

[labug]

It aint the end of the world is right. Love saying that to either or thinkers. Happy New Year Bugsy

Thanks, Rick. I'm so happy that things are moving in a positive direction for you.

The world used to come perilously close to ending for me on a regular basis. :0 With my nervous system constantly on alert like that, I'm amazed that I had just slight hypertension.

[labug]

Taking a break.

[SunnyB]

Wishing you peace and clarify from your break.

[Maybell]

Hi, Labug,

Thank you so much for the kind way you've led me in 2014. I appreciate your patience and your daily attentiveness.

I hope you decided to do the art workshop and that your meditation retreat has been refreshing for you.

I hope things with your younger son are moving in the direction he needs them to and that you've found an effective way to cope.

I hope your marriage is satisfying and that you are happy with where you are.

I hope your break is refreshing too. You are so incredibly generous, the number of people you help and threads you keep straight. The time and energy it takes to respond to all that pain. I hope you give yourself credit for that amazing gift. Sometimes when you talk about yourself you sound more like a person aspiring to be healthy than a woman who knows what a blessing she is to others. Please keep that in your mind when you're tempted to be hard on yourself. I'm guilty of being very much a taker with you. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

((((((Labug)))))

Wish I could do more.

[labug]

Thanks, MB and rpp.

I'm good, had a great week at the retreat, wish I could retreat for a living.

This week I start a watercolor class. Life is full of interesting things.