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paul 47 #2513677 12/04/14 04:04 PM
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She seems to be increasing contact she txt me at work to ask if I would like to have dinner at MIL home with her and kids, and just as I got home from work she happens to be passing to pick S7 up from school, and she gave me a massive smile and said I will send you txt when dinner is ready
Just have to keep cool PMA

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Just a quick hello to say thank you for posting. Your sitch is interesting and seems to be heading in the right direction. As you know, many of us have negative or no interactions with our WAS. It's nice to see someone who interacts positively. I think you do well to limit your responses and decline some invitations (DB says 50%). You're lucky she's contacting you so much, giving you a chance to apply the techniques. Keep at it.


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Hi there Mozza thanks for the advice i will start to decline more,we do seem to be heading in the right direction but it will still take some time to get there,she did start out as a text book WAW for the first 2 months all she did was spew and make out i was a bad guy who never loved her, and then she started staying out all night i suspect OM
It was only when i started to apply LRT that i started to get anywhere and now we have been stuck in that holding pattern for the last 4 months no ILY and no OR talk but lots of positive interactions, she still tries to push my buttons every now and then and s test me on a regular basis like tonight when i called at her house after dinner at MIL she told me she had a man in her wardrobe, i just laughed i am detached enough to not let it get to me

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paul 47 #2513801 12/04/14 09:06 PM
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well i have had to give in and agree to go for Christmas dinner at MIL, to much pressure from D16 who is actually my SD but in my eyes she is my D and to her i am her daddy, as she calls me when she wants something lol

here is the txt she sent me

I love you
your my daddy
no little girl wants a
Christmas without there daddy
no matter how old they are
xxxxxxxx

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Definitely increasing contact, she phoned me last night to help out with a technical problem with MIL mobile phone
Then a txt first thing this morning to tell me it's S7 Christmas play on Tuesday

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Friday night is my night with the kids movie and games and takeaway pizza's.
Tomorrow night I'm going out on the town with friends, I'm starting to enjoy the single life lol

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Just been out in the car to shops with D16 and on the way home W phoned D16 and asked her to ask me if I would pick up some cigarettes for her, now normally I would just have gone back to the shops and got them for her but this time I told her no I'm not going back, it will probably piss her off but I'm getting sick of all these little favours

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I think i need to pull back a little bit,she is getting to many of her needs met and the cake eating has to stop, she won't feel any loss,it is like we are still together but living in separate houses but she don't have to do the sex bit well not with me lol

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time to go out and hit the bars with a big group of friends, you can not keep me of that dance floor once I'm on it lol, best heterosexual dancer of all time wooooh party on

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Had a great night out last night with friends and made some new friends, one friend told me he had seen W out with her single friend on Friday night and no sign of suspect OM, he said W got a taxi home on her own and her single friend stayed a bit longer, I never asked for this information he just gave it to me, I'm starting to think OM might be out of the picture as W has been going home the last few Friday's

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