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paul 47 #2514257 12/05/14 06:34 PM
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That's what i figured. It's just the way she was so nonchalant about it that was killing me. I have an idea of what to expect, and an idea of how to handle it. It's getting easier, and my discipline is getting better


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eleven #2514266 12/05/14 07:05 PM
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You need to detach mate, I know it's hard and killing you, and be careful what you say, don't loose you're temper they remember everything and will keep bringing it up, she will try pushing buttons to make you angry.
Best thing you can do at this stage is just ignore it and do you're own thing, do things to make YOU happy

paul 47 #2514293 12/05/14 07:48 PM
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I'm careful with what i say. Ido ignore what she says and does, and I do things that make me happy. I can tell when she's trying to start a fight because she wants me to get upset, and I just let it roll of my back. It's not easy, but I'm doing a lot better than before


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eleven #2514300 12/05/14 08:05 PM
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You're doing good eleven keep doing what you are doing, I remember my W at the same stage, one night she had this massive rant over nothing, I let her finish then looked her in the eyes and said I'm ordering takeaway pizza would you like some and just walked away

paul 47 #2514357 12/05/14 10:29 PM
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Just ranting, but my wife just started putting up the Christmas tree and listening to Christmas music. First song: oh come all ye faithful. Seriously, I couldn't make this up.


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eleven #2514370 12/05/14 11:16 PM
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Fantasy land mate nothing you can say will change anything, only you're actions over time

paul 47 #2514923 12/07/14 11:32 PM
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Been sticking to the plan. No changes, but no expectations either. Probably haven't spent more than a couple hours at home at the same time all weekend. It's getting alittle easier to react without emotion, but she tries. Oh how she tries.


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eleven #2514929 12/08/14 12:02 AM
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yeah its not what she was expecting thats good from my experience,i would buy some new clothes let her see you wearing them and do a disappearing act even if you just go for a drive somewhere that will make her think

paul 47 #2514932 12/08/14 12:20 AM
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New clothes - check
New cologne - check
fresh haircut - check
disappearing act - check


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eleven #2514941 12/08/14 01:10 AM
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change the time you get in from work if you always walk through the door at say 5pm then sometimes walk in at 6pm become mysterious and unpredictable and tell her nothing unless she asks then be vague with your explanation
These things worked for me but I'm no veteran here

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