But I'm also starting a new chapter in life. For me part of that is getting rid of possessions that are no longer useful or meaningful. My only question is whether my marriage is one of them.
My bassett hound just bolted out of the garage. I'm applying the 180 and not chasing her....maybe she'll come back!!
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Ex Rzrback Me 43 Her 44 D11, D15 T21, M19 BD 9/9/2014 Piecing
Sometimes if you want to see a change for the better, you have to take things into your own hands - Clint Eastwood
Do you plan on reading the partner book to CNM? Curious? I ordered both today. Apparently one is supposed to help you identify the co-dependency. The other to help fix it?
I dunno. We shall see what the post man brings.
Good job decluttering, GAL and sounds like a good MC session.
Do you plan on reading the partner book to CNM? Curious? I ordered both today. Apparently one is supposed to help you identify the co-dependency. The other to help fix it?
I dunno. We shall see what the post man brings.
Good job decluttering, GAL and sounds like a good MC session.
yay!
The copy I got from the library had both books in one.
Ex Rzrback Me 43 Her 44 D11, D15 T21, M19 BD 9/9/2014 Piecing
Sometimes if you want to see a change for the better, you have to take things into your own hands - Clint Eastwood
I'm a little stunned that your marriage counselor would just sweep the infidelity under the rug, and then ask you to DATE her. What do you know about this MC's stance on infidelity?
I'm a little stunned that your marriage counselor would just sweep the infidelity under the rug, and then ask you to DATE her. What do you know about this MC's stance on infidelity?
Starsky
She's been pretty clear that W will need to break contact with OM in order to reconnect with me. We didn't talk about OM today, but there's more to come.
Ex Rzrback Me 43 Her 44 D11, D15 T21, M19 BD 9/9/2014 Piecing
Sometimes if you want to see a change for the better, you have to take things into your own hands - Clint Eastwood
I know that I need to see W making positive moves away from OM. How can you see things like that when there's not that much contact between them? I figured out her passcode and took a quick peek. No text messages between them for a week. The last conversation was pretty pedestrian. She's got several pics of him on her phone, but it looks like they were taken from his Facebook page. Obviously she can't just tell me he's done with him and have me believe it.
I can't help but wonder if he's getting tired of the game himself. Wouldn't that be something? I'm also starting to wonder if the EA was fairly one-sided.
Ex Rzrback Me 43 Her 44 D11, D15 T21, M19 BD 9/9/2014 Piecing
Sometimes if you want to see a change for the better, you have to take things into your own hands - Clint Eastwood
This is hard to say and I hold this in my sitch, but W relationship with OM is her concern. The existence of it is important to know, so you can have your boundaries.
Great passion or dishwater crush? Irrelevant.
No doubt others here would have you know in detail. My view is that it is unimportant. You and W and your M are your main goal without an open marriage. That is what you say you want and DB is about a happy marriage between two committed parties.
Whilst you focus on W and OM, it's blocking rzr. By your growth, your change, your improved GAL then you have the best chance of building the best relationships including W. The change is in progress, keep going. Vanilla
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Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
