So you got tagged, eh? Pretty much "script" on her part. She felt she was losing control of you when you made your boundaries known, so she tagged you. You're easy.
Can you stop by Jim's thread if you haven't already? (I'd said Mozza, but I meant Jim. Though Mozza could use some Starsky too.)
I think I quoted you, more or less, but I'm not sure if I got it right.
(As in, it was you, and it was accurate.)
Thanks,
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Me 54 Him 63 M 23 T 29 0 Kids Funny Farm of Rescues 12/12 OW-- 5/13 ILYBINILWY: A denied 9/13 Proof OW: ENDED 2/14 Got D papers on my BD I kicked him out for my sanity 9/14 He wants to "talk"?
Please explain "tagged" and "script" do you mean that I am it and she responded like a script.
I (did everything that you shouldn't) looked at phone records, texts, web, facebook and found nothing, talked to the possible OM (without confronting him) and saw and felt nothing...only my gut tells me otherwise. Emotional connection at some level possibly...physical - highly unlikely.
She started seeing a therapist in town yesterday and said that she felt better - talked to me about it but was nothing that I did not know. She slept in the other bed last night for the first time...stating that she is confused when I touch her and needs to figure it out. Stated for the first time that things are not black and white for her anymore (like 4 months ago when the bomb dropped). But she still does not know, she thinks the changes I made are a patch. I told her that they were simply who I am.
We have DB counceling together...but she likes to see someone in person. I do not feel like I need it. I have three sessions left. Don't know how it would help me as I believe that I am everything that I am...
I do not know if this is progress or not.
W-43 H-41 M-19 T-21 Kids S-15 D-13 S-11 OM/EA/PA suspected 7/4/14 Talk of Seperation 7/5/14 Slept in same bed, held each other nightly until 2/1/15 W moved out 2/1/15 I am moving on
"Tagging" refers to a woman initiating sex with her man in order to "re-claim" him after she's been with someone else. It's a form of manipulation and control.
W-43 H-41 M-19 T-21 Kids S-15 D-13 S-11 OM/EA/PA suspected 7/4/14 Talk of Seperation 7/5/14 Slept in same bed, held each other nightly until 2/1/15 W moved out 2/1/15 I am moving on
"Tagging" refers to a woman initiating sex with her man in order to "re-claim" him after she's been with someone else. It's a form of manipulation and control.
Yes, and not the time for him to think......"But hey, I'm a guy, so.........".
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
OK, yea...don't know what to say about this. It is a possibility that it was manipulation of some form.
This hurts, if true...it hurts bad.
I want to get to the bottom of it, but shouldn't I be happy that she states that she is working on it, has found a therapist (120/hr!!!), does not see things as "black and white" anymore?
W-43 H-41 M-19 T-21 Kids S-15 D-13 S-11 OM/EA/PA suspected 7/4/14 Talk of Seperation 7/5/14 Slept in same bed, held each other nightly until 2/1/15 W moved out 2/1/15 I am moving on
Last night was bad she was distant and acting mad (which was different than that morning (previous post), stated: "I cannot see myself with you for the rest of my life" "I do not want to take trips with you" "Lets just get through the hollidays and then end" "We didn't make love, it was sex, I regret it...I was drunk"
Pros: She is wearing her rings, talked this morning normally, slept in same bed and held each other in the morning.
Sure Detatch and GAL, mirror her, act like a friend, be patient, listen to her. Difficult.
Thanks for reading
W-43 H-41 M-19 T-21 Kids S-15 D-13 S-11 OM/EA/PA suspected 7/4/14 Talk of Seperation 7/5/14 Slept in same bed, held each other nightly until 2/1/15 W moved out 2/1/15 I am moving on
