Edz - continuing to move forward

[edz]

Ha.

Hey Jim no chance of a split holiday? W and I are at early, early stages but we floated her having s Christmas eve and morning and me afternoon and boxing day so he doesn't miss one or the other of us.

Emperor palpatine otherwise known as mil may complicate matters but I'm done allowing her to impact s if w is too chicken to deal with her that's her problem I on the other hand have no issues reminding her who s' s parents are and that she isn't one of us.

[jim0987]

Actually that was her suggestion but she will be off to Hampshire and I won't. Neither do I fancy spending 3hrs driving on Christmas day.

Current plan is handover on boxing day then do a repeat of Christmas on the 27th

[edz]

Thats lousy (changed as the auto filter is apparently based on a very wide range), sorry to hear that. Well at least your kids get to have a double christmas with you both. I hope you all have fun.

Just pulled a bit of a boner with W as she's poking me to get information for a housing form and asking when this other house will be available and when Im moving. I was happy with the first response that I'm waiting for the landlord clearance and landlord to confirm and I'll let her know but then of course she was pushing further and got to me while Im low and I ran into too much information again. No, no begging or sobbing, just too much honesty really.

I just dont know how Im going to get through the next 4 months or so, I just cant see a good ending at the moment. Well one day at a time I suppose no matter how lousy they are.

Oh and forgot to say, South if you're about, 40 lengths today not the best but the pool was silly busy and Im still not 100%

Thanks all

[edz]

Sigh, the filter on here is worse than my aunt maude (well not that I had an aunt maude) think hoover for the censored word or even a small straw being used in a drink!

[South74]

That's a good start especially if your are still a bit poorly .
Could you not have just plowed through everyone lol.
Got to work on getting back to nearer 80 Edz .

I'm nearly down to 13 stone the circuits is really helping also getting fighting fit lol.

[edz]

Good for you South, you should be proud of what you've achieved if you ask me (although no one has ;)) think you're going to do well no matter what you decide with W.

I think I'd be better if I didnt have this move as well. I'm also - as expected - being left to sort all our possessions out - W is hiding as I thought she might do. Dont think the reality of it all is really anything she's dealing with or she's dealing with it just fine in which case she's become a very very cold person indeed. No idea and I dont have the energy to guess any more. I'll just take what I want and know she hasnt said she wants to keep. I have all our photos digitally so photobooks, wedding pics, wedding book I'm leaving here. If she joins me later she can bring them if not best I'm not surrounded by reminders of whats been lost.

Anyway working from home again today, back in the office tomorrow. Going to book some time off as soon as I can as I need to decompress from one aspect of my life and it wont be moving or WAW any time soon unfortunately.

[jim0987]

Some time of sounds good but make sure you have a plan to do something with it.

I'm thinking of taking a trip somewhere or learning to ski - basically something a little off piste. It doesn't have to be expensive - Maybe just get away to a mates house for a bit.

I really need to improve my fitness regime...

[edz]

Sounds like your fitness regime is good to me mate, much more and we'll see you at the olympics

Money means I can either move or go away not both and knowing my sich you can see why its the former.

Time will probably be spent packing and working out logistics rather than having a holiday and, as you say, not sure I'd know what to do with an empty day apart from stay in bed or go mad - although I did finally play on the PC last night, Borderlands pre-sequel - really, really bad at these games but was fun to play for a while.

W's birthday next tuesday so wondering what to do about that, card obviously and maybe a small gift but nothing like I would normally do presumably. Another wonderfully cruddy milestone in this year.

[jim0987]

You want try earth defence force then - it requires no skill at all.

I think an empty day would be really hard. So focusing on the move is a good thing.

Not sure about BDay - mine happened about 3weeks after BD and the card she gave me was one of the most hurtful things. It was just so cold. But then I'm LBH so I have a very different take

[edz]

Yes, to be honest I dont want to make a big deal of my birthday this year, Im off so I think I'll go do something away from home so I can at least pretend my life isnt in the cr@pper

As you say as those left behind we want to be shown affection and caring but doing that with the WAWs is another matter indeed.

I know my S wants to make a big deal about it as a family, Im guessing she'll squash that (at least acting on orders from MIL) which leads to an even more difficult situation

On games I have a wide choice with a fully loaded MAME set, fully loaded SNES,NES,MD/Genesis and a load of classic stuff I also have tower force which I got just before all this started may have to take another look at that. Also havent finished blood dragon yet!