The fact that you have looked for answers in all of those places is better than most, already.
Did you ever ask your H to simply be on your team as a parent, not just for ideas or solutions? He may have felt inadequate to help you if he thought you needed answers from him, leading him to withdraw. If he knew you really needed his support and teamwork more than anything, maybe he would have felt more open to providing that?
I ask not so you will regret the past but to have hope for how it could be different in the future if your WAH seeks to R
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Me 38, WAW 30 D11 (former marriage) S2 T 8 years M 3 years BD 8/20/23 S 8/20/23
I don't think either of us would have known what that looked like. We tend to lean towards the concrete. And we never discussed a cohesive idea of what values we wanted to instill in our kids. Or our goals as a couple. I tried a few times but he said his brain doesn't work that way and he preferred to just wing it. And yet he says that he feels like we agree on the big picture issues.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
Hi maybell. Meltdowns are fine. Let it out. We all parent the best we can. No one has all the answers and anyone can judge. I have read all your posts and unless you have a split personality don't let others judge you. Take care
The cOW is still liking pics of my kids. I did up my D's hair and let her try on my makeup, and H posted a picture of how pretty she looked.
I wish she'd get fired. Or my H would. I used to think that was the worst that could happen, but I'd rather be poor and working out our problems than have her still floating around as a little splinter in his life. I wish he had the cojones to boot her out of his life and face why our M failed. I wish I wish I wish.
I prayed at church this morning for clarity and a sign of what path I'm meant to walk. Now I see she liked that pic of MY daughter, I wonder if that's a sign.
What's wrong with me today? Besides not sleeping well after haunted house nightmares...
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
Maybell, I hate to say it but my WAH's OW was also his coworker and she no longer works there anymore and I don't think it matters that much. If she still worked with him daily maybe he would get a chance to become irritated by her. But no, instead she is an unreachable sparkling star that he misses seeing every day...
Sorry you are having a downswing. It will pass soon I hope. I am having a bad PMA day as well.
Look, Maybell, I notice that a lot of OWs tend to take picutres of themselves with the LBH's kids as in "I am not so bad at all!" Talk abult low-self esteem and they feel the need to prop themselves by holding up the kiddos as a way to burnish their reputations.
It's a lot like Jabba the Hut taking picture of himself with Shirley Temple in the hopes that someone would think Jabba is a stand up guy. NOT!!
She has never met my kids and is in another country. She just is liking the pictures of my kids that my H posts on Instagram.
I don't know why I'm fretting so much about this. Except that Starsky says my M can't be reconciled until my H has ZERO contact with her. I'm just so tired of this. I want the chance to be the sort of wife I meant to be. Although I'm struggling with that part so much too that maybe it's just as well we're not really speaking to one another at the moment (except about the kids).
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
Maybell, the OW knows exactly what she's doing...the method is irrelevant...by liking pics of the kiddos, she's trying to better herself in H's eyes. Not too surprising at all.
Maybell, the OW knows exactly what she's doing...the method is irrelevant...by liking pics of the kiddos, she's trying to get on H's good side by liking ANYTHING he posts. Not too surprising at all.
