Newcomer living in Hell

[bravo61]

It's not about the credit or acknowledgement, but don't lie and I do nothing. That's just kinda frustrating. But I'm gonna continue to do those things cause it's what right. Can anyone see any positives in my ditch? Struggling to see any and would love to.

[LoveMyW]

"I love you daddy, I'll miss you".

Yep, this one tears me up every time too..

"I tried so hard"

Yep, heard this too.. when I asked for how long, W said the month between BD and S.. Yep, a real long time!!..

When I get as chance, I'll read your whole thread Bravo..

[jim0987]

Kids are the real heartbreaker in all this. There is unconditional love.

In the words of guns n roses 'I hate to look into those eyes and see an ounce of pain'

[bravo61]

It would be cool if we all lived in the same city. Could u imagine the group GAL ing? Epic!!!

[bravo61]

I will say the other day the W told me she had a pleasant thought of me. She saw a black charger & it reminded her of me. I had a black charger for a take home car. She smiled when she recounted how excited she was. Man I sure could use some hope. Anyone that's read my thread see any? I think that the W has very little sense of self and is being really influenced by sketchy "friends".

[LoveMyW]

It would be cool if we all lived in the same city. Could u imagine the group GAL ing? Epic!!!

Hahaha!!.. We would be all GAL'ed out!!..

[bravo61]

Isn't it amazing how much for clearer other folks sitches are for us but our own are f*ed up like football bat. Sandi, 25, I could use some feminine wisdom over here

[jim0987]

Its much easier to look at other peoples threads. We are detached from those.

[bravo61]

Hey Jefe,
ROLL TIDE!

[bravo61]

saw the W at soccer game today. apparently the kids were bad today and she was sore from working out. D kept pulling on her and instead of jumping in like i used to (and she would snap at me and say she had it under control) i let her handle it. she turned to me and said "look, i'll pay you if you take her off of me." told her no prob and entertained D the rest of the game. later on W said "hey we communicated. i told you what i wanted and you helped without fighting." i told her i would've helped earlier but i didn't want to send the message that i didn't think she could handle it. i wanted to respect her boundaries. she said that for a lot of years she had held in resentment cause she thought i would see her struggling and wouldn't help her. i gently let her know that i made a lot of wrong assumptions too and i should been more available to give help willingly and not grudgingly. she looked at me very thoughtful after that.