It turns out, you should use protection when you are having an affair- not just to avoid having an illegitimate child.
Pre-cancerous cells have to be removed.
Another hurdle..... another hurdle..... another hurdle. That's all it is. Taking it in stride. Yup. Don't feel much emotion. It went to my "numb" place. My brain knows it's messed up, but I don't feel anything.
I will be saying a prayer for you mighty. I truly believe in prayer after my recent brush with ill health. I was scheduled to go on lung transplant list. The weekend before I was going for a lung biopsy I had another CAT scan. On Tuesday when I saw my specialist he could not explain what had happened or how. All he could say was the condition completely reversed itself and my lungs were clear. So sometimes he does cut us some slack.
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Thank you, Shining. You are so sweet. Yeah, Next week will be the 2nd anniversary from when my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer. I am definitely not going to tell her about this. Stress is sooo bad for it. Another reason my dr said it has progressed in me.
LT, WOW! What an amazing story! That is truly remarkable. Thank you for sharing that. I am so happy for you that it worked out- and so wonderfully!
You guys, thanks for the support. The funny thing is, I am not that worried about my health. Maybe I am in denial, but I have faith that it will work out.
I think the most upsetting thing is that it is from xh. I mean c'mon. I feel like he is killing me a little bit at a time.
I am so sorry to hear your news, Mighty. I will be praying for you. You have been under so much stress. Please take care of yourself. I am sure everything will be ok.
And nope, do not allow your xh to take anymore than he already has.
I'm sorry Mighty. Sending positive energy your way!
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I know we aren't discussing the apology thing anymore but I wanted to offer my support and maybe some insight on why his "text apology" probably upset you.
Anyone can issue an "apology." An "apology" doesn’t require sincerity or an understanding of the offense. An "apology" is not action. It is merely a combination of words.
Your ex sent a text message. A combination of words. Nothing more.
An apology becomes meaningful when it is coupled with introspection that shows we understand why we are apologizing. That we understand what we did wrong.
We are sorry we hurt someone by our actions and are willing to take steps to correct the behavior so it doesn’t occur again. We want to learn affirming behaviors so we never do the thing for which we are apologizing for.
But most of all, we want them to know we don't want to hurt them again. We apologize because we want them to understand hurting them is unacceptable to us. It is a boundary we never want to cross. Our intention is never to hurt them.
This is why an apology is meaningful.
Your ex didn't apologize to you. His text message conveyed none of this information.
To the contrary. He didn't apologize. He rudely attributed a negative behavior to you and then issued what appeared to be an "apology." And he did this in a text message. Hello! Test messaging has been your ex's weapon of choice since bd.
It was a passive/aggressive attack on you in the guise of an apology.
I have no doubt your ex thought he was apologizing. But this is a man who doesn't seem to care about anyone's feelings but his own.
How do I know this?
He left his wife and family for another woman and her family. He didn't leave his wife and family because he "needed space." He plotted and planned this. He made sure he had another family in place so he could seamlessly replace the pictures on his mantle.
The minimum (and I do mean the minimum) he owes you is a sincere apology.
But I wouldn't hold my breath. A man like this doesn't give sincere apologies. He sends passive/aggressive text messages designed to make you angry causing a confrontation which will validate his reason for abandoning you and his children.
On another note, do everything possible to be healthy. Don't you dare give this man an opportunity to capitalize on your situation. This man has no moral compass. I would not put it past him to use your situation to benefit himself somehow.
Just saw what is up, Mighty. Good thing you are as strong as your name! Stay strong, keep up the positive attitude....I know you will come through this!
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