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Because she can see she is loosing control. She calls me tonight while she is out w kids to ask me what I am doing. Earlier in day I txt her to ask if she was ok with me going out of town for 4 days in 2 weeks. She asked me what I was going to do. I told her I was doing the walk to emmaus, which is a 4 day christian retreat real big deal in our church. Something her freind told me she wanted to do. It's a men walk 2 a yr. Womens 2x a yr. She said why don't you wait till nxt yr.WHAT! I said I needed to do it for me. And I felt like I was drawn to do it now. I am thinking why do you want me to wait till next yr. Then she tells me they won't be home for an hr. I still out of habit call her honey. So I said I will be sleeping honey when you get home. I feel like she is confused rt now she feels like she is loosing control. And she is a control freak. Good day for igit. Just being me no expectations.


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Wow. Good for you, though. It sounds like you're handling things well.

Where did your wife meet the OM?


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D12 SOFTBALL COACH FOR 2YRS, FUNNY THING IS W Always complained about how bad he treated D12. His w cheated on him . You think he would know how painful his divorce was and to stay away. Nice coach


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Horrible people out there. Ever seen Strangers on a Train? smile Just kidding. Kind of.


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igit, you are in control! just remember to keep that pathway home smooth, even if you are already headed in the other direction.


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Bomb #1: 09-16-13
Recon #1: 11/13
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Pilot, I will, she is my 1st love! The mother of my kids! We have been through so much together in our lives, I am looking at her as a teenager that has ran away from home. I love her and always will but she needs to find her way back home. I will be there to open the door.


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Oh my gosh igit.. I LOVE what you just wrote. "I love her and always will but she needs to find her way back home. I will be there to open the door."

That is beautiful!! Hang in there!
I cant wait for the day when you get to open that door again!


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Everyone says try something new and stick with it if it works. I took boys to cabin this morning, got back early evening. Had a nice conversation w wife. Talked about her job which she likes talking about. After I got kiddies to bed wife was in bed, I decided to get out of house and went for a drive to listen to some music. W was very curious to where I was going. She is very controlling and also gets jelous very easy. Anyway I am GAL and it definitely helps. I am not interested in any other LF however I do need to be quiet and to myself. Keep her confused to what I am doing. I am not playing games just doing something that I know is having her wondering about me. I really do think she has felt along that she has had me by my nose. But the last few days she seams to be much nicer and somewhat interested in where I am and what I am doing. ANYWAY I need to keep it up. Whatever works!


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Proud of you igit. You seem to have a handle on your situation, given the cards youve been dealt. You also seem to be as much at peace with everything as can be expected. Keep it up, it is not over yet.


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Married 7 years together 8.5
S1: 7 S2:7
Bomb #1: 09-16-13
Recon #1: 11/13
A discovered 04-03-2014
W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me
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Wow, keep it up! Sounds like you're seeing some positive change.


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