H's MLC #4

[2BHappy]

Wounded
Yes I work FT, we split all our home bills and 95% of everything for our son. I have no idea why he says anything like I take his money. I often tell him I apprciate him helping to provide for us. Yes he works alot of long hours and he does not have a easy job.

When he made a point to tell me he was watching game with s14, I told him I know s14 will love that.

And the brownies came out great:) and I had nothing to do but eat them:)

[woundedfool]

I kind of get the vibe your running on fumes (and ... well... that you kind of flat out said it).

So I want to inspire you, I want your battries charged!

I want you to think of a GAL that is selfish and ONLY about you (I hope that doesn't come off as bad as it sounds), something you always wanted to do (I want it to have NOTHING to do with S or H)....

What would that be?

* and don't give me a little small time idea like join a book club... I want to hear something like build a college!

[2BHappy]

Well,,,too tired to build a college.

I have a spa date plan in a couple of weeks with some girlfriends.

I will be having my 2nd annual all ladies get away in Nov (in planning stages now) over night stay away from home. 1st one last year due to drama and needed to get away had sooooo much fun making it a yearly thing.

I have friends I meet up with monthly, then some who we get mmore often.

Something else,,,I will have to think about it a GAL that is VERY selfish...hmmm need to think on that, something BIG...
I could very well plan another all ladies vacation. Had one in early 2013 before BD.

[woundedfool]

Well,,,too tired to build a college.

I have a spa date plan in a couple of weeks with some girlfriends.

I will be having my 2nd annual all ladies get away in Nov (in planning stages now) over night stay away from home. 1st one last year due to drama and needed to get away had sooooo much fun making it a yearly thing.

I have friends I meet up with monthly, then some who we get mmore often.

Something else,,,I will have to think about it a GAL that is VERY selfish...hmmm need to think on that, something BIG...
I could very well plan another all ladies vacation. Had one in early 2013 before BD.

Bigger!

But hear me out. The outings you have (and are planning) are good. But in my experience, those are just little "quick hits"... much like a junkie getting a fix. After the weekend/trip/party is over.... there ain't much left.

Can you try to think of something for just YOU, that would have some long term value?

*Example (and I don't expect you to do this)... But take the motorcycle safety course, and learn how to ride a motorcycle: msf-usa.org

or take a basic flying lesson at your local airport?

Or take the Coast Guard boating safety course?

Think things of that nature.

[2BHappy]

May be a different type of BIG GAL- But for me I want, I need to lose 70lb. Yes 70lbs, over 1/2 has been gained in last year since BD.

And learn how to salsa! Yes I want to take salsa classes. I have a mensics tear in my knee that needs surgery but I should lose as much weight as I can before getting the surgery (actually might not need surgery after I lose the weight & build up the muscle in my legs)

So losing the weight will be BIG for me, I need it for my self and it will make the salsa classes soo much easier on my knees.

[CaliGuy]

I 2nd the big GAL activity .... ironically I did take the Motorcycle course ... just for me, took all weekend. Then about a month later I pulled the trigger and bought the Harley I always wanted to get. Let me tell you ... the first ride I took on a weekend, I was singing songs as loud as I could in my helmet, probably looking like a total fool, but I was happy, not thinking about my sitch, thinking .. Why oh Why did I wait this long?

W still has no clue I have the bike, for now I just do not see any reason to share, no need to fight about it .. I did it for ME .. not to piss her off. I have a friend who hits me up often to go for rides .. shcedule has prohibited that .. but tonight we are riding together to the softball game.

My point ... Doing this one bucket list item made me fell like me again, I was doing my own thing ... was extremely liberating

[Atsbaby]

2B,

I just started dancing lessons on Sunday! It was so much fun. I was talking to one of the ladies who works there and she said there is a guy who will celebrate his 1 year anniversary of dancing next weekend. He lost over 100 lbs!

Go do this for yourself. You want to salsa, do it for you! You want to lose weight, learn to salsa, do it for you! Get the idea

[2BHappy]

So I went out to contact a couple of places where they have salsa classes....they are far from my house AND times conflict with me picking up my s14 from practice, I take turns with another parent, week by week
So I need to work something out with that to see if we can just do certain days, that way I can take my salsa classes. I ask if I needed a partner and they said not right away, and when I do there is always people who need to partner up.

So once I talk to parent and if we can re do the pick up days, Im going to get all signed up and pay in advance that way I don't back out! I have wanted to do this for years!!! Excited!

[CaliGuy]

So once I talk to parent and if we can re do the pick up days, Im going to get all signed up and pay in advance that way I don't back out! I have wanted to do this for years!!! Excited!

Good for you!!

[2BHappy]

What really bugs me is the question I want to know the answer to...
Why my H will not leave the H, not file for D? I know it could be worse if he leaves the house.
But I really want to know in his mind what his reasons are for staying?

H has told me its for S14 and that he does not want me to struggle, mentally or emotionally or financially. Said its a hard time for S14 starting HS and being a teenager and H thinks it will be better he stay here with s14 to guide him along.

Does he not realize the mental and emotional struggle that I'm dealing with now?

I have no idea where my H is in his MLC or what ever he is going thru...

Wish i did not care!