Yeah, I read back a while ago. It is amazing how much good can come if we look inwards instead of outwards for change. I'll have to go take a look at your thread. Thanks for the positive feedback.
Me: 34 W:33 T: 10 M: 6 S: 6 D: 5 BD: 5/14 Still together(ish) Not giving up: 7/14 D talk has slowed, a lot. Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms. Slow and Steady wins the race.
Without having any official word from her that we're going to work on things and having still not gotten a hug or kiss or heard ILY at all, I'm pretty certain we are piecing.
Making joint decisions about the future, she's open to seeing my family again, getting rid of extra couches she got for moving out.
We're going to the NFL season opener in Seattle on Thursday together and may be staying the night.
It's weird, because I'd like to hear for sure where she stands, but I know better than to push right now. When she's ready, things will continue.
Right now, I'm enjoying my family and having my best friend back.
I'm still going to be here a lot because I've got a lot of work to do still.
Me: 34 W:33 T: 10 M: 6 S: 6 D: 5 BD: 5/14 Still together(ish) Not giving up: 7/14 D talk has slowed, a lot. Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms. Slow and Steady wins the race.
Just letting you know I read your thread and to keep up the good work.
BF:40 M:33 SD: 12 T: 8, never married, no kids together BD: 8/4, "I'm just done", "...too tired and burnt to try". PA confirmed 8/5 "It happened, but it's been over for almost a year".
"Without having any official word from her that we're going to work on things and having still not gotten a hug or kiss or heard ILY at all, I'm pretty certain we are piecing. "
Sorry to throw cold water on your fire, but you are definitely NOT in Piecing. You are only in Piecing when the WAS ACTIVELY does things to make things right. This includes MC and understanding their role in the demise of the relationship.
The signs may be positive, but it isn't in Piecing territory yet.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
That is very encouraging news in you r above posts but please keep yourself grounded. Enjoy the positives but understand there might still be some negatives. MrBond is correct in what he is saying.
I would love to be at the level you are at though!!
Keep it up
Me 47/W 34 T 16 M 13 No kids BD 6/2013 W asked that I move out 6/2013 I moved back and W is upset with this 12/2013 separate beds not much talking Served D Complaint 5/2014 W moved out 9/27/2014
I hear you guys. I know there's still a long way to go and plenty of setbacks along the way. I may never get to piecing under the above definition. I'm not sure my W will ever do MC or acknowledge her role in our problems.
Whatever it is, it beats the hell out of where I was.
Me: 34 W:33 T: 10 M: 6 S: 6 D: 5 BD: 5/14 Still together(ish) Not giving up: 7/14 D talk has slowed, a lot. Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms. Slow and Steady wins the race.
