The Amoeba Whisperer: "It's All Dog Training!"

[Wonka]

Calm down, GGG. You're spinning.

You can simply say, "Sure...thanks for letting me know. It would be helpful to let me know ahead what it is that you wish to talk about tomorrow."

[Wonka]

Here's some tips on setting healthy boundaries:
Setting Healthy Boundaries

You'll note there's a link to assertiveness on the bottom of that site.

[GoatGal]

I thought about sending this email as a Head's Up:

"I saw Dr. R, he had some concerns about how I am living, the stress I am under, and the impact it's having on my physical health.

I realized, he's right.

It is not healthy for me to be cooped up here alone 24/7 with 18 dogs and the house in this condition.

I appreciate the help you've been able to provide, but it is not enough.

I was hoping to brainstorm some ideas where it might work better for us and the animals.

I thought I could ask for more support from you because I can no longer go this alone.

That's all."




---GGG

[GoatGal]

"PS: I am in no frame of mind to deal with any additional bombshells right now, so if that's what you were planning, I'll pass, thanks."

[GoatGal]

Yeah---I'm spinning all right!

He never wants to talk. This is freaking me OUT.

If he hadn't sent those nasty texts, I would have though maybe something good.
Now I feel like he has an agenda...

And he has gone from Passive-Aggressive to outright Aggressive at times, based on the bit of the article I looked at.

---GGG

[Shining]

Hitting home for me, too, Wonka....

I'm poaching this advice, and the link on boundaries.

Sorry for the thread-jack, GGG. We can duke it out at dinner .

[GoatGal]

You bet, Shining!

[Wonka]

Hey...Shining and GGG...please join me at the fire pit. I have my trusty amaretto with me. Feel free to bring your favs too.

Do I need to talk you off the ledge, GGG?

[Shining]

I have an abundance of brimstone to contribute....

Seems to be excess from the redecorating.

[GoatGal]

Right now I am unwilling to discuss anything hurtful because I'm in a fragile state.

So I want to nip that in the bud. I don't have to talk about the R or his divorce if I don't want to.

Only good thing--usually he says all the awful stuff via text/email--like wanting a divorce--did that in an email!!!--- or in the middle of a fight.

So maybe talking in person is positive sign?

If he thought I'd freak out, he'd do it electronically. (Coward)
He's afraid I'd go off on him.

Hmm... Let me think about this and calm down.

Man! So much for detachment!

I just feel the pain and hurt all over again... wondering what he's going to do to me next.

That FEAR.

It's a bugger.

---GGG