H is out of the house

[twinmom]

It wasn't pretty, I am super emotional right now but he is gone. I made him leave....

[Ggrass]

You will feel better, once the initial stress dies down.

Did you want to talk about it?

[twinmom]

It's been complicated the past few weeks.... he has been telling me he isn't over her but doesn't text her anymore. We were at his cousins grad party and the twins were playing with H's phone. He went to change S2 and I decided to snoop. Haven't done this is almost 2 months. He had texts to her with live you x you're beautiful, links to you tube songs....etc.... I calmly walked out to the car where he was and told him to give me the keys or take me home. I let out alot of feelings on the way home. H said he was scared of the work it would take to repair what he had done. He said I was stronger than him to have changed for the better.

I told him to get out. That he had 10 minutes or I was calling the police. I have no legal standing as of this moment but we live in a city where my uncle and cousin are both police officers, my mom dated a police officer here and I know a lot of them so I reminded H of this and reminded him my uncle and cousin know what H has done to me so push me and I will call the police and they willmake him leave.

H wanted me to yell at him more and "get it all out so I feel better and won't have to call him later to do it" I told him calmly to just get out I will see him in court and I won't be calling him later.

[Ggrass]

well done, was ow texting back?

Was it reciprocated? Or was he doing the chasing something he cannot have?

That was awesome. Truly it was.

Hands Tm, a who packet of choccy frogs! White ones, brown ones, gooey Carmel ones.

[twinmom]

Ow wasn't responding to much.... he asked her if she worked today and she said no but that was it.... she wants nothing to do with him.

[Maybell]

Wow, way to go. That must have taken nerves of steel.

And hugs to you too, because it must hurt.

[kml]

Honey, I'm sorry. I know how crummy it is to read the evidence of the affair.

And unfortunately you were in an untenable situation, with him living there but not working on the relationship. As we've discussed before, he's a serial adulterer doing nothing to fix himself. He's not likely to do the work until the reality of the consequences of his actions is slapping him in the face.

Now rally any help you can find to help with the kids. Keep the focus on the kids, and doing the work you need to do to figure out why you picked a guy like this. It may be a struggle, but life will get better once you own your own life.

[Ggrass]

He may not wake up, tho he hasn't learnt from any time he's cheated.

To him the value of a new r versus an old one, is a no brainer he seems to like new and shiney.

[twinmom]

You might be right, I don't know.
Yesterday morning he sent a good morning text and an hour later a text telling me the county fair ended yesterday (I had wanted to take the kids) then at 11pm he sent a text saying his parents neighbors have been blasting music all day and no sign of stopping.

I didn't respond to any of the texts.

This morning at 7am he sent a text asking how I was feeling as he saw on fb that I had a migraine last night.
I have not responded and don't plan to.

Just an interesting observation, when he was living with OW he would text about the kids and sometimes some random coupon topic or something. So far he has not asked about the kids at all and I never got a good morning text while he was living with OW.... Not reading into this, just more documenting/journaling than anything else.

[Icedtea]

I'm so sorry. It is just so hard with the serial cheaters (like my own STBX). You hold out hope in the deep recesses of your heart. You want that light bulb to turn on. You want the words to be true.

But then, they aren't.

I'm so sorry.