UGH! I can't tell you how many times a day I see something or hear something and think "Marc would love that!" or "Marc should see that!" and then I realize he can't. One sad mama! I know it's just going to take time being separated from him to get used to it. Heck though, my mom passed nearly 4 years ago and I still sometimes think of thing she should hear and realize she's gone.
Stinks!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
So take pictures! You can keep them together until he is able to receive them! I am sure he would love that you were thinking of him enough to do that.
My grandma has been gone for almost 15 years. Not a day goes by that I don't think of her. The cardinals from here are indeed a blessing.
Big hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I got an address to write to Marc! It came yesterday as did his box of personal effects. I already had 4 letters written to send him so I sent one today. I'll send another tomorrow and so forth. He only has a chance to respond on Sundays. Hopefully he will. He's not the most prolific of writers!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Hey Mish - trust me your letters will mean a lot to him. Just keeping him informed as to what's going on in the normal world will be very welcomed by him.
Sigh, Mish. My D20 just stopped by my work to say goodbye and give me a hug, as she and her dad are beginning the drive back to NY this afternoon. I'm not crying (or even tearing up), but I just feel sad. So I know what this is like from your point today!
I've decided that I'm going to start writing her as well. I think I'll get cards and send one a week, and maybe a care package or 2 per semester. I won't ever get this time back, so why the heck not?
Now... gotta figure out how D17 feels about all of this. Last year, she was very unhappy about her sister leaving. She's held back in getting close this summer, so we will see.
Upward and onward
Hugs,
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
HUGS Betsey! It's so hard to watch them go. I've sent Marc 2 letters already but haven't had one from him. Of course they are only allowed to write on Sundays and Marc doesn't like to write so I'll be amazed to get something from him. I miss him so much! I just want to know that he is handling this ok.
I got panicky this morning when I read something from another mom with a son at boot camp. He shipped out the same day as Marc and sometime this week had an accident and dislocated his wrist and is being discharged. I have bad dreams every night that something like this happens to Marc (because he is totally accident prone!) and he gets separated from the Navy. If that were to happen it would destroy him! This is all he has ever wanted. He's not prepared to do anything else. That keeps me on edge all day, every day.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Thanks, Mish. We're all good now. D17 had a rough first night (she sobbed after we did a Face Time chat with her sister and dad), but got back to normal by the time we did the chat again last night. It's all good here.
I think it's a mom thing to worry and have weird thoughts about things. Marc is gonna be fine. Now you just have to get a hobby that makes you happy so you can focus on that. My hobby right now is painting stuff. It's like art therapy to me. I either have the TV on or listen to music and for whatever reason, it just makes me feel... happy.
It could be knitting/crocheting, painting canvas, photography or decoupage. Heck, I even love to color. Earlier this spring, I did my poster board of visualizing to pull out when I need a little reminder of the life I want to create. LOL, in the travel portion, I found that I put New York and Canada there. Did that in May and will be going to NY twice in October. LOL. My D20 wants to go to Montreal with me for spring break. I'm considering it!
Anyway, get busy dreaming. It's not only good for you but cathartic. And it definitely helps ward those weird dreams off!
FTR, I've been having some really weird dreams myself. I don't even know what that's about. So maybe it's the letting go process at work in our subconscious minds?
Hugs back atcha- Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Mr. unemotional. LOL
One sad mama! I know it's just going to take time being separated from him to get used to it. Heck though, my mom passed nearly 4 years ago and I still sometimes think of thing she should hear and realize she's gone.