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Oh Dawgy....

I haven't been tempted by the opposite sex (and that is the God's honest truth. Sometimes I wonder if I will ever feel or allow myself to feel another romantic feeling ever again, and that makes me cry). But I understand why you are.

I just think it's a terrible, terrible idea.

I'm sorry if I sounded too harsh.

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Originally Posted By: dawgy
Im only asking how to deal with the temptation because im brutally lonely and while GALing you meet alot of people of the opposite sex



Sure. It's called self-restraint, Dawgy.


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Thx Mlp thats what I was asking . I needed a clearer view on how to handle the opposite sex in regards to getting a life and how it seems to have lead me in that direction . Im going to have to choose activities that dont include the opposite sex


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I feel soo weak . I want to give in to temptation but i realize thats what the W did .If i was to give in it could or most likely would make my sitch worse


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Dawgy - it's all about choice right now. I read this a few weeks ago and it helped me tremendously. Maybe it will help you, too.

The power of choice

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MLP has given a great link to an insightful article.
Take this from it, Dawgy. You cannot control your W. Period.

You must learn to control yourself. I find that to be the greatest challenge. Just try not to test yourself by engaging in conversation with the opposite sex. Yes, choose activities that don't include women. At least that'll keep you away from temptation while you learn the skill of self-restraint and self control.

While improving your self control, work on other aspects of your character.


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You can also read what DBinSF is doing these days for his self-improvement. The difference, of course, is that he was the cheater...but the similarity is that he's trying to stay faithful to his WAS. I like his list. It's worth looking at for ideas.

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Look dawgy I stole it. The saying I stole i played copy cat 101!

Your welcome to come in to my thread share jokes and chat. There is nothing happening with my m! He's bolted like a rogue colt grin

He could hardly approach me to say hello, last week at the funeral. The ow is receiving gifts including a car. crazy rolls eyes right.

There is a lesson in my thread, from today.

So tits up out, onwards upwards with dignity.


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Originally Posted By: MLP
Dawgy - it's all about choice right now. I read this a few weeks ago and it helped me tremendously. Maybe it will help you, too.

The power of choice


Loved this article, MLP, thanks.



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Having abetter day today only because W was so nice last night . Just like her old self . Om not sure why but i guess it doesnt matter . Believe none of what she says and half of what she does Right ?? I felt so good . Anyway that had a direct influence on my demeanor today . Kids are going away friday night for the night which leaves us alone . I dont know what to do . She doesnt want to be alone with me so it seems . So I think i have to make a plan to go away for the night myself . The only thing is , I know where she will be . With OM . I want to ask her what she wants to do . If she says be with him it will kill me . Im in a pinch and I dont know how to handle this


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