She says she's conflicted

[Oxford1]

Here is my last thread:

What's my Next Move?

[Oxford1]

Well last night she admitted the conflict is Stay with Me Versus go with OM!

I know the believe Nothing what you hear rule.

So I am going to assume that this could be just a lie.

Just trying to set my strategy for the next couple of weeks.
I do believe she's touring apartments.

[MrBond]

"So I am going to assume that this could be just a lie."

It's probably not a lie. What you don't understand is how conflicted the WAS can be and clearly your W is very confused.

Continue doing what you want to do as if she wasn't there.

[Oxford1]

"So I am going to assume that this could be just a lie."

It's probably not a lie. What you don't understand is how conflicted the WAS can be and clearly your W is very confused.

Continue doing what you want to do as if she wasn't there.

Ok, I will. The thing is she told me shes being more forthcoming and truthful to me then AP. I actually believe this

Another tid-bit is, I understand I can be quite controlling. Mr. Bond helped point this out to me and continues to do so when I post controlling statements.

However, my WAS must be attracted to this in men.

The Om tells her to not say, she is in "her House", he insists she says "I am in THE House", He tells her to not call me her husband, and says you must not say that when you refer to him, I think the US courts might think differently.

He tells her to call his apartment, in his country "Their or our" apartment. He insists she calls him her fiance. Meanwhile she told me when she put his "commitment ring" on his finger, a wave of Doubt and concern over-him overtook her. Oh, and he insisted that she do so.

Finally, she has told him that she is completely separate from me. Does not talk to me and has nothing to do with me in the house...

We sleep in the Same Bed!!!!!

[InLikeFlynn]

How does your WW handle the sons in all this? I mean I would hate to have my kids lose respect for me!! She is the main female role model for them that they will carry with them in their future relationships!!!

[MrBond]

"Ok, I will. The thing is she told me shes being more forthcoming and truthful to me then AP. I actually believe this"

You shouldn't. She's going to bring up whatever lie is going to make her sound the best.

"Another tid-bit is, I understand I can be quite controlling. Mr. Bond helped point this out to me and continues to do so when I post controlling statements."

See, your belief that she's being truthful is also controlling. It's like you don't want to acknowledge that you might be wrong. It's the same way of thinking that she has.

"However, my WAS must be attracted to this in men."

Which makes her weak enough to leave any relationship for whom she sees as stronger.

"The Om tells her to not say, she is in "her House", he insists she says "I am in THE House", He tells her to not call me her husband, and says you must not say that when you refer to him, I think the US courts might think differently."

Who cares what the courts think? The fact is that he has enough control over your W to order her around. And you're trying to order her around also so she's in a tug of war between you two. What happens when one side drops the rope in tug of war? The other side falls. That's what you need to do. Drop the rope.

"He tells her to call his apartment, in his country "Their or our" apartment. He insists she calls him her fiance. Meanwhile she told me when she put his "commitment ring" on his finger, a wave of Doubt and concern over-him overtook her. Oh, and he insisted that she do so."

Same.

"Finally, she has told him that she is completely separate from me. Does not talk to me and has nothing to do with me in the house...

We sleep in the Same Bed!!!!!"

Again, why do you concentrate solely on her? Let her go. Stop helping her.

[Oxford1]

I agree with all your post above.

I am trying so hard to retrain myself. No more control, no more bringing up OM.

Let him attack me. Let him control her.

Worst of all let him text her over and over telling her he's worried for her safety and that I have done something.

If she's five minutes late texting him. He freaks out. Calls all her phones texts her over and over.

How does she put up with this?

[Oxford1]

Again, why do you concentrate solely on her? Let her go. Stop helping her.

Does this include driving her and her staff to the airport etc? Is that what you mean?

[Cadet]

If she's five minutes late texting him. He freaks out. Calls all her phones texts her over and over.

How does she put up with this?

It includes obsessing about her like this above ^^^^

[Oxford1]

If she's five minutes late texting him. He freaks out. Calls all her phones texts her over and over.

How does she put up with this?

It includes obsessing about her like this above ^^^^