Thanks, right now I am having a hard time with the pursuit/distance thing as we are having SOOOOOOOOOOOOO much contact. If he isn't here at the hospital he is texting asking how things are going or chatting about something.
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction
Lillian is nursing every 3 hours, no more oxygen, no iv, no monitors. Her blood sugar is good. She might come home tomorrow
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction
Do you think I should take H up on offers to help with the older boys or should I just tell him I am just fine?
Do I still try and make minimal contact with H or do I meet one of his needs and stay in constant communication?
Last edited by twinmom; 06/16/1403:42 AM.
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction
twin, accept his help right now. You just had a baby. Accept ANY help right now from those you trust with your children.
Now isn't the time to "prove" anything to yourself ... or anyone else.
Just keep your expectations low re: your marriage. If you accept help with the kids, just keep reminding yourself *it's help with/for the kids*. But, yes, accept help.
Sooooo happy to hear things are improving with Lilly!
Big hugs!
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014
Who is looking after the other children? Maybe It sold be good for him to have them. As for contact do what works, but for you, not him.
I got "lucky" and went into labor on a Wednesday afternoon. The older boys are with their dad from Thursday morning at 7am till Sunday at 11am. But because it was father's day he wanted them all day. So I have not even had to worry about them.
What works for me as far as contact..... hmmmmmm when I fall into "fantasy happy family land" or reality check he is still an a$$ that has shown no remorse/wanting anything different...........
Mentally I know I need to stay away but the hope inside of me doesn't want to.
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction
that was awesome. He needs to get his $hite together and decide.