Thank you! I will ask the Dr about this. My mind is hardly functioning and I can barely remember what day it is, anything the nurses or Dr has said to us I have just believed and not questioned at all.
quote=kml]Sweetie - I'm so sorry you are going through this. I want to make you aware of something that may be useful.
As I understand it, they called social services because the baby tested positive for the drugs? But if you were off of them for a month there's no way they should show up in her system (or yours).
Except - some people have weird enzyme defects in how their liver processes drugs. I remember hearing a lecture at a medical conference a few years ago, and a case was mentioned in which a breastfeeding baby suffered an overdose of narcotics. Turned out the mother had abnormal metabolism pathways, and her normal dose of vicodin for postpartum pain resulted in extremely high concentrations in her breast milk.
If you haven't had the drugs for a month and they're showing up in your system or the baby's, you may have some similar quirk that makes you very slow to process medications out of your system. And you might need testing to prove this. [/quote]
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction
I was under the impression that some ad can stay in your system for weeks. Up to 4 or more. They way I understood was they build up and wear down slowly.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
Social services wanted the name and phone number of my therapist and a release form to speak to the therapist to make sure I was "stable"
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction
That's hard to take. But if you were a third party in a stable place looking at your situation from the outside, you'd also think it's reasonable. What you are going through IS earth-shattering.
I am so sorry that this special time has been damaged so horribly. I really hope that some time in the not too distant future that it's just a blip in a happy life. Sending more hugs & prayers.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
Ok so update first. Social services = no problem, contacted my therapist and then ed told everything ok.... Lillian is off the oxygen and they are lowering her iv fluids and I get to nurse her tonight.
DB mistakes during labor....... told H I loved him right after an intense contraction. Asked for a hug when they told us they needed to transport her to another hospital to go to the NICU (he didn't say no to the hug but didn't hug back and he was crying)
LOTS of physical touching by H during labor (hugs/pulling me in close) calling me sweetie.
Sooooooooooooo much time spent together, we have not been apart more than an hour or so (go grab food to bring back) since Wednesday at 4ish
I know emotionally I am going to be taking huge giant steps backwards in the detach area....
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction
First off, really really glad Lillian is improving and Social Services is resolved.
Secondly, nobody should ever expect to have sufficient control in labor and delivery to DB with the baby's father. Give yourself a break. You behaved the way a woman in labor behaves. That was right and true and it's ok.
Thirdly, you have a newborn baby. Recover, bond with her, take comfort in her. Whatever happens or doesn't with you H is temporary compared to that.
More hugs, more prayers, more support for you. Be well and find peace.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
Thank you everyone! I have been able to nurse her 2x this evening.
Emotional blow (grrrr I knew I was taking huge steps backwards) H filled out birth certificate information and he didn't know a few of the background prenatal questions so left it for me to finish. I saw he put his new address :-(
Yep, shouldn't matter but it was a deep breath and telling myself I won't cry in front of the NICU nurses over this.
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction
OW dumped him..... he was told to get his stuff out today. I told him to leave hospital if he couldn't act like everything was normal because I don't need to see him moping around here.
I bet she takes him back but I really don't care right at this moment
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction
Thank you, I slightly slipped on "saving him" when he asked for a favor. He is taking the twins to a picnic for father's day and wanted to borrow my van as his jeep is filled with his clothes and he didn't want to have to tell his family (he told his mom but no one else) that she kicked him out.
I agreed (I am just sitting at the hospital anyway).......
Second guessing myself that I should have said no and made him face up to his family.
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction
