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Actually you write very clearly. You're showing that you don't want to do the work. All I've heard are excuses and not why you haven't read the book.


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MB I am reading and studying the links given. I can be less vocal of frustrations if it helps.


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My children are so amazing. The three of them were excited to spend time with me and head to church. I tear up knowing that six months ago I wouldn't have even noticed them. Gunna spend the day taking for haircuts, baseball practices, and grocery shopping. Their time now makes my life happy no matter how it's spent. I can't help but know they heal my wounds


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Nothing but her true love and patience when I was losing my mind could have possibly made my heart, mind, and soul wake up


Yet you said it was when she was finally done on V day and stopped trying is what woke you up. All her efforts in the M did nothing to shake you. It was when you saw her stop.


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More excuses. I didn't say you had to stop venting on here. I'm just calling you out that you want everyone else to do the work for you because for some reason you refuse to read the book.

The links mean nothing unless you READ THE BOOK.

Why are you too lazy to do that?


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Whytry, how are you doing?


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What Mr Bond said. You need to read the book for this to work.


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Sorry Sandi2 for slow reply. Have had an amazing time and Easter holiday with kiddos

To answer your question yes the v- Day was the BD but I had been changing for a while that even wife acknowledged to me and in her posts. I took too long


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Hey MrB, I've been reading more and started DR now. Thx for reinforcement of importance.


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BF I'm doing well. Enjoying more and more of myself every day. W stays in her room so I do the needed chores then hang out with my kids. They are the ones that show me how much I've been missing by my previous choixes. They will always love me (even the mean turd I was). I'll catch up with your thread tonight after bible study.
so far no D word in a week but still seperate rooms etc.


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