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Yet another new thread... (YANT)...

Previously...

#16 Here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2417475&page=1

#15 Here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2400702&page=1

#14 Here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2383277&page=1

#13 Here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2383226&page=1

#12 Here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2370587&page=1

#11 Here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2366272&page=1

#10 Here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2360182&page=1

#9 Here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2360155&page=1

#8 Here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2353512&page=1

#7 Here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2339824&page=1

#6 Here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2323718&page=1

#5 here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2306709&page=1

#4 here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2281706&page=1

#3 here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2281702&page=1

#2 here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2258452&page=1

#1 here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2244252&page=1

W was tired and it a withdrawn mood, so after fixing the furnace I'm back at the office hanging with the night guy, speaking secret geek talk and such... lol!


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Well it was a good Xmas.

W was fully present and much like herself during the present opening. Lots of real smiles, even one for me, she seemed happy.

She had to take a couple breaks, but overall so much better than the two previous holiday seasons.

She cleaned the kitchen for me so I could cook, asked me to help her by keeping the laundry she started going, been quite a while since she asked me to work with her.

I made a nice, simple, ham dinner.

The kids loved their presents and the meal, just a nice, good day.

I am thankful.


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Happy for you T2~~~ sounds wonderful!!

Did you have a gift for her? Did she have one for you?

Cheers!

Magic


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Sounds great!! Happy for you and your family.

Merry Christmas T2


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That's awesome. Glad you had a good Christmas! smile

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T2,
What a wonderful Christmas! I'm very happy to read that everything went well and all had a very pleasant day. That's what the holiday is all about...team work and having some fun!


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Thank you all!

Magic, we haven't exchanged gifts for years because the money was always so tight that we decided to focus our resources on the kids. So I had no expectations, and by me NOT giving her one, even though the money is better now that she is working, I am showing that I heard her, and respect her.

Aside from W being further along in her journey, the main thing that made the day good was that I feel that I was truly lovingly detached, and truly without expectations this year. The past two holiday seasons? Not so much, lol!

Just accepting of who she is at the moment, and focused on the present moment, what WAS right in front of me. No pressure, no trying to make any certain outcome happen. Just focusing on the kids, their happiness, and being myself.

Being happy with my kids, with W, as she is right now, and myself.

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Being happy with my kids, with W, as she is right now, and myself.
And for that, I am truly happy for you, T2.

smile

AJ


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I agree with AJ - so happy for you, my friend.

Glad it was a good holiday.

You freakin rock, T. Just sayin....:)

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Dang, T, I forgot to sneak in the mistletoe for the kitchen. Would that have been something for you, heh?

I think your W has been secretly taking some Claritin in the bathroom. Just sayin'... laugh

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