Hello... Hmmm it looks the same over here, wait... I see a huge mountain... Is that for me?
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
Just read through your last thread. I really liked what you said here, [/quote=jp787] My goal is to get to a point to where I can plan and if it falls apart, then I rool with it instead of getting rolled up in it. [/quote]
I need to adopt more of your attitude, of rolling with the changes, and not letting fear of uncertainty hold me down.
-cp
M: 8 yrs T:14 Twins:7 S:5 BD:'NLILWY': Feb/2013 Mar/Apr/May: MC June: "living in limbo" Sept 12: H moves out Oct 20: reconciling Jan-Feb 2014:MC Feb 2014: separating, and H moved out.
More nervous that excited, guess that's normal after nine months away.
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Haven't lived together for 9 months. Completely acceptable and understandable to be nervous. She will be as well. Feel those emotions and understand why you are having them. You will be awesome new JP!! Keep trucking forward. Wife and I are moving into the new house tomorrow so I hope you and I both have very happy weekends!
M 37 W 30 S 7 Together 10 years Married 9 years BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day) I moved to apartment 1/11/13 W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13 Peicing: 6/3/13 Reconciled: 7/2013 BD2: 4/20/16 still working on it
Really important to remember the things you've learned. Most important, be the man you want to be.
You know J, I feel like you've been holding your breath all this time. I'd like to see you let it out.
Just go with it, ya know?
Your family is back together. You've grown a lot. She hopefully has, too.
There is still a lot of work to be done. Without a doubt. But, this weekend, put all the crap aside, the worry aside and just enjoy what you've accomplished. Enjoy your family.
Still plenty of time to work through all the other things. Today, be joyful. Be positive. Show her that you can be.
Buy a bottle of champagne and toast your future (Unless there is a drinking problem for either of you, I don't remember one though) Make a big deal out of it. Tonight, after moving all day, give her a back rub with some nice lotion or oil and let the rest happen...welcome home W
M 46 H 44 D 12 S 8 M 9 T 11 BD 2/15/13 "Makes sense to stay together" 5/12/13 Agree we are 'healing' 7/13 Definitely Piecing 9/13
Well weekend went fair. I really backed off and withdrew. I have a lot of "working on my sh1t" to do. I am so confused as to what is going on with me.
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
