Tired.

[YFR23]

What do you do when you just dont have the strength to fight for it anymore??

Im so worn down and freakin tired of fighting.......is it all worth it?

[TimeHeals]

I have no idea what you do. I can empathize, but my wife moved out yesterday after I reached the end of my rope, so I won't offer any advice.

All I can say is "I know how you feel", and maybe you just stop fighting?

[sosadoh]

I'm asking the same question today. I too am at the end of my rope after years of fighting for a relationship and 9 months of being separated. I think if you need to surrender , it's ok. Whatever you need- it's okay. Give yourself permission.

[poepad]

Tired.

I been alone and lonely for 7 yrs now.
She married the other guy.

Untill you are dead, keep fighting.
Obiviouslly what you are doing is not working.
Spend a few weeks reading everyting thing you can here.
Start a journal, I don't know why it helps but it does.

Continue to post here, there is help.

Then formulate a plan.
Make sure it includes,
dressing better,
Tons more hugging and kissing,
even if it is not the spouse.

Take every chance to fix it.


If you have not done marriage couseling, make sure you use SBT.



Good Luck

[dbmod]

Poepad,

Thanks for coming back to help. What inspired you?

[Mrse00]

i know how you feel , i have been the fighter and glue to my marriage and now that i am finding my way back to "me" again hoping we can both enjoy this new phase of our lives has thrown me into a power struggle im not sure we can survive this battle, started at 10 yrs and now heading onto 13 and i am more lost now, than before, wishing you the best

[strongerthanever]

I needed to see this. I almost feel bad for posting my real feelings on this website, like I'm going to get stoned or something...

[lostforever]

this was a good post. I feel this way too. im just not sure how much longer i can go on. it has been since feb of this year 2012 that we have been separated. . I love her and keep fighting but im drained and frustrated and just dont know what else to do. so I feel you. I dont drink or do drugs it has been 25 years but sometimes Hmmmm maybe it would make it better.

[angel61]

Sometimes that's when things change actually.

When you give up thats when they come round and realize what they're losing.

Its OK to be tired of fighting....just don't get tired of living for yourself!!!

[Tearntear]

I felt the same way you do - I decided to put a stop to it by stop talking to him, focusing on what works for me and the kids -Let him know, only when we both can see thing on the same page again- we will talk again-
Hope that helps you somehow..