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What other issues are you working on? Have you got your weight back under control?


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MrBond #2363642 07/03/13 04:42 AM
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Much better. And blood sugar is getting close to normal range. It was at near death level. Work is definitely going to need to be changed - well, unlikely the stress will change, but I need to deal with it better. Trying to practice mindfulness. Being in the moment. That ties in with the anger management, and finding better ways to deal with stuff.


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Got a cancellation at the counselor/therapist office. Get to go today at 3:00 instead of next Wed. Great for me! :-) But, is there any way I can let W know without it violating the 180 principles? Because I'm in the no-initiating-contact phase for sure. And it's not like I want to blast it to the world on Facebook. Hmmmm.


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Why would you need to tell your W? The C is for you. Not her.


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I was being mildly facetious. I hope she can see the change, but that will take time.


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"I was being mildly facetious. "

I think that's an attitude that isn't going to be helping your sitch. Especially if that's the way you communicate with your W.


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Disagree. A sense of humor is very important, even here. There's no correlation to discussions here about the situation and how I might communicate with my wife.


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I was referring to if you talked that way to your W. There's only so much we can infer from your postings and can't tell if you're joking or not.


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I do have a wry sense of humor... or I can be very sarcastic. So that's it in the good and bad sense. Something I will definitely have to work on. I have a very busy mind, so often I'm thinking a mile a minute and might have an expression on my face that she takes as me giving her a dirty look or something, when I'm just in my own world.


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Also, sorry I was so argumentative when people, like yourself, were only trying to help. I will try to do better. Sometimes in text, things get taken wrong.

It's been a very stressful couple of years work-wise - no excuses, but that's where I really need to learn to prevent different parts of my life from wrecking the other parts.

The 1st visit with the counselor went very well. I think it will be the best thing I've ever done for my mental health. I've been to short-term, groups, etc. before, but I want to keep this going.


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