"I've told you before that I still love u and still think that we an have a great life together as both a couple and a family. I have not changed my mind on that. But I understand that you are not happy, that u don't feel happy or complete inside. U need to do what will make u happy. By my side, we can be partners and will share everything and we would do anything to help one another. But that's only if we continue as a team. but I won't stand in your way, but also won't help u leave this marriage or our family. I hope that u do find happiness u r looking for. go do what u need to do. You know where I will be."
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
I agree with not responding for a day or two. Give yourself time to let the emotions settle down.
M: 29, H: 31 D: 9 S: 8 T: 13 Y M: 9 Y ILYBIDKIILWY 12/09/2012 ~~~~ Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles. ~~~ it Emptys today of its strengths
Rough, I know how you feel, and it is terrible. I am so sorry. I wish you all the best. Remember, it isn't over yet. D takes months. I know, as I am in my 3rd month. It has been 45 days since I had to answer D papers. Don't give up because you receive papers.
BD: 8/20/2012 W Files: 8/23/2012 S: 8/25/2012 (I moved out) D Final: 3/5/2013
(((((((rough))))))) thinking of you. Take care of YOU. Give yourself as much time as you need.
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
Thanks a ton everyone! Denver, I appreciate you providing the verbiage. This really hit me hard. While I knew it might be coming, I am still stunned, shocked, hurt, sad, you name it. I feel like the months I've spend on this forum has taught me a lot and really helped me get through this. All of you are very caring and it means a lot to me. I will be responding to W in just a bit. It's interesting that I havent even cried about this. Maybe its because I am still shocked and everything hasnt settled in, it's really hard for me to process this.
Give yourself time rough. The emotions will come when you are ready. (((((( )))))))
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
I can tell you from personal experience that it is never over til it's over. We separated after he stopped the divorce (3/12)but it just shows things can change. I'm in no place to give advice (I'm new here) but take care of yourself and I hope what ever you want to happen does. In my case I'm still hoping for an R but am giving him space and still doing 180s. I am seeing small positive signs. I think from your timeline I've been going through this longer but it seems like it takes some a long time to figure things out.
Although I find it very, very difficult, I find that less is more when responding to things.
Good luck to you!
M 48 H 50 M 25 T 27 D 20,18,15 6/11 H filed 3/12 H dropped 4/12 H moved out
So sorry Rough. I can't remember if it's Cadet or Jack that says this, but one of them is fond of pointing out that divorce is just a piece of paper. It doesn't really change the sitch much since you've already been separated quite a while. Hope is still there for as long as you care to hold onto it. Best wishes!
So sorry Rough. I can't remember if it's Cadet or Jack that says this, but one of them is fond of pointing out that divorce is just a piece of paper. It doesn't really change the sitch much since you've already been separated quite a while. Hope is still there for as long as you care to hold onto it. Best wishes!
THAT ^^^ is absolutely right.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
