You said you were going through a rough patch recently. I had noticed you were quiet. I don't always have much to offer. But I will tell you I enjoy reading your posts.
The truth rings through like a bell. I am still so wrapped up in all the "What ifs" and "Whys" that I sometimes need to hear it 10 times.
I have re-wired my thinking. I try to keep sane. I read peoples threads on here and it has been YEARS and they haven't moved on. Or they move on and repeat their mistakes. I am trying to learn and grow.
But I feel like a bush that has had half itself lopped off in a decidedly bad pruning job. I know that with time and some better pruning I will grow back symetrical. Again, time is what it will take. Maybe a couple of years.
And then again maybe I will end up as some fantastic topiary that looks nothing like the little bush it started out as.... What shall I be?
Anyway, Sorry for the hijack. I hope things get better for you!
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
Bea, We are all here for you. The rough patch will take its course and you'll see a ray of sunshine after the dark clouds have passed.
Sending you positive thoughts today!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Thank you all so much - it is part of really letting go, and seeing the MLCer for what they are and have become. Like I said, some of them come through MLC but haven't faced their demaons, and are so much less than they were.
Realising how diminished by xh is is so sad. But every time we go through a rough patch we find a better place . . . . .
This is a great place. And one reason I am positing less is my life is very full and busy and present!!
Btw I love the image of a badly pruned bush - you will become a beautiful piece of optiary again.
How could I have missed this...wonderfully titled thread?
It is awesome, as is the imagery.
B,
I have and always will say this:
I would rather be the LBS than the MLCer.
To lose all trust and respect you have garnered your entire life from friends and family...to have squandered it all?
To have to choose blind pride and go forward with life made from bad decisions, or to become so humble as to try to gain your way back and know people hold judgment on you and what you did regardless of your choice?
LBS WAY easier.
My wife was fragile when she came out of it...like glass, broken glass that could still cut, and fragile all the same.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
