My situation with my WAW....

[sandi2]

I thought I had put that in quotes.

[peringo]

Mediation on monday for parenting time and schedule.

[peringo]

Anyone with custody mediation advice?

W and I spoke alittle exchanging son... I asked how come she found help and supporters of divorce so quickly and didn't put any effort into finding supporters of marriage.... she said "what because I don't love you"

Ayayay

[peringo]

Mediation did not go as planned... they want to make me an every other weekend dad... this is gonna be a costly battle!

Afterwards the W wanted to meet, she said I could see him every nite if I wanted... sounds like she wants a baby sitter...

Oh, how I want this to all go away.

[sayitaintso]

I have learned so much... one lesson left, learning how to not love her or acting as if I don't love her... the dilemma I have with that is that if I am able to achieve that... I'm not sure if preventing divorce would make sense.... confused...

GAL, giving your w space, and detaching does not mean to stop loving her. You can and most likely will continue to have love for her regardless of your marital status.

[peringo]

I keep reading about boundries... would this be acceptable? Since my W can very easily manipulate my emotions and she clearly has no intention of ending her R with OM, would it be wise to say to her that I do not want see her or hear her voice until she ends her affair.

We can communicate everything regarding son over text or email.

Thoughts?

[unbidden]

Wouldn't you just be doing it to get a reaction from her or get her to stop what she's doing? Are you still trying to manipulate the situation?

[peringo]

If she stops if great... if not thats fine... I'm just so exhausted of her pulling at my heart to benefit her...

[LostIn407]

How are you doing peringo?

[peringo]

Hi lost... I'm hopelessly lost, confused, just really don't know what to do...
Custody mediator wants me to be a every other weekend dad, not good.. but then the W said I could come over everyday to see our son, which would really limit the amount of time she could be with OM, is that her plan? to spend more time together with me? Should I get that all in writing and pursue that direction? Should I fight fo 50/50 custody? I really don't know what to do...
Of her complaints and my 180's are of a more intimate nature and for her to take any real notice there would have to be alot more closeness...

She continues to tell me of wonderful things are with OM... so I just don't know.


So to answer your question as how am I doing... I am surviving, nothing more, nothing less...