Just respond back with a yes. That's the only answer he is looking for.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I just replied back yes - against my good judgement. Don't really know why I am trusting someone named snodderly and tsquared2 who I meet on the Internet over my own genius reasoning. The same genius reasoning that got me into this predicament to begin with.
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Because he has told you what his intentions are, i.e., to continue working on a divorce. You may not have realized it, but your expectations may have been a little bit on the high side after he was willing to attend the meetings. Just my opinion.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Because he is in crisis and he thinks that a divorce will provide him with the freedom, independence and happiness he so desperately desires. He thinks that the relationship and you are the cause of his unhappiness.
BTW, if you go back through your thread, you will find a posting from me where I did indicate that I thought he was just going through the motions of the AA meetings just to get you to meet w/him. Mlcers tend to do this just so that they can finally get what they requested or wanted to move ahead. They will promise you the moon, but in the end, the moon is still up in the sky and the promises are broken.
Carve out some addiitonal time and read up on mlc and depression. They go hand in hand.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I have read about MLC and depression and it doesnt sink into my thick skull because it doesnt make any sense. My H says he would do anything for our daughters but yet he never tried to work on our relationship?
I knew getting him to meetings was a shot in the dark but miracles happen all the time through the program maybe a seed was planted for the future. Most people come into the program when they are in the gutter apparently my H has a way to go.
My cousin just got sober and it was not pretty getting her there. She got fired, walked out of rehab, went to meetings drunk, threw chairs around her house but now she is sober 3 months. Miracles do happen. I need to keep believing in miracles for my children.
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13
