Journal - Just finished a 20 mile bike ride and kids have yet to get up. Anyway, was doing a lot of thinking about how much I should let W go. I know every situation is a bit different. With my W she gave so much in our short M. I counted on her for so much including dealing with my crazy ex and the abuse she puts my girls thru. So in the end she separated from me partly because she was exhausted and felt like her and her boys were getting the short end of the deal. They were and that is my fault. My W jumped in and thought she could fix everything and I let her and then reality hit and she realized that she can't fix a crazy ex and I was not giving her what she needed to make her feel loved. She has made a few comments in the past about how she fully expects me to jump into the next relationship and she will never go there again. So in my mind I need to be there for her. She expects me to go out and start sleeping around and I need to show her that I love her for who she is not for what I think she can do for me. So for right now yes I plan on giving her the space that she needs and be comfortable with that. I am going to work on myself physically, mentally and financially! Anyone need a realtor;-) I still love that line. Be the person not even a fool would leave!
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I did get a happy father's day text and a posing to my facebook say how luck the kids were to have such a great father:-)Sad the more I get the more I want... Still too needy I guess back to working on being happy being alone.
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My W and her boys just stopped by to say hello on thier way over to a barbaque with her friends. It was nice to see them and she was all decked out. Again nice of her to stop by but kind of messed me up seeing her look so good! I miss her and hurt so much but trying to keep it inside.
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Good Morning, Not sure if my story just is not interesting enough, to much information, not enought information or if maybe I am just too needy (know that one already) but wow I just can't get folks to respond with advice. There have been a couple of very helpful comments so I should be greatful but really struggling and would love some insight from people who have been thru this before. Thanks
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Sorry, Tinman, to hear that you are struggling. I think that you would get more responses if you asked specific questions for help. The posts that I've seen from you have just seemed matter of fact and not like you were asking for a response or particular help. Sorry that I misread them. Things do get better, overall, day by day so hang in there.
I spent a lot of time reading old threads. I found posters who struck a chord with me and searched out their posts.
Even tho we think we need "personal" advice and that is nice,all our situations are similar in the major things so advice given to others can be helpful.
Currently, Accuray posts great stuff, True Gritter, Mach1, 25. There are others but those pop into my mind.
Part of taking care of you is searching out what you need.
Good luck.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
Funny I just read and commented on one of your other postings. I have been reading and searching but I have not found one that is dealing with a crazy ex and most tend to be dealing with EA/PA. Good timing and thank you
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My W being a psychologist thought she could win over my crazy EW and provide for a positive parenting relationship. My W's efforts failed and once she realized how out truly mental and abusive EW is my W encouraged me to go after full custody of my two D's. I did and the custody battle has been going on for almost a year now. It has emotionally daring my W and me and has come between us. Progress is being made and we have our final hearing on August 16th. We have 135 pages CPS report that substantiated physical and emotional abuse on her part against my kids but even with that I am still concerned at what the court will actually do. My W told me that she cannot go back to a life that includes my EW. So I guess that if I do not get full custody in August there is no hope for my marriage. So sad that it has to be like this. I still feel like if I could somehow become a better spouse that it would make up for this baggage that I bring into the marriage called an ex-wife. Has anyone had to deal with this before? Am I just supposed to wait until August and hope the courts see what is going on?
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