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Originally Posted By: shockeddad

I showed her a shirt that I bought for vaction bible school that has Matt. 19:26 on it.

Nice! I am particularly fond of that verse myself. smile

Originally Posted By: shockeddad

She is even fighting her faith now too.

My W is, too, and has been for quite some time now. I'm sure with your W, as with mine, that faith is in conflict with their game plan. My W stopped going to church early on in my situation. I figured she was afraid of hearing something that was inconsistent with what she's doing.


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Bomb#1: 5/8/2008
MC: 5/2008 - 4/2010
Bomb#2: 2/10/2011
W moves out 5/7/2011

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Am I trying to read into things to much? I just want my W back. I want to hold her in my arms, I hate being alone.


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S 3 / S 5
NOT HAPPY 11/11
BOMB 12/27/11
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What if your blessings come through raindrops
What if Your healing comes through tears
What if a thousand sleepless nights are what it takes to know You're near
What if trials of this life are Your mercies in disguise


ME 31 / W 29
M 7 / T 13
S 3 / S 5
NOT HAPPY 11/11
BOMB 12/27/11
MOVED OUT 2/12
THINKS D WOULD BE BEST FOR HER 5/14/12
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our VBS week used the same scripture to get the kids fired up (everything is possible with God Matthew 19:26... I pointed this out to my W who works two part time jobs at the church and she chose to ignore it...


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S:8 S:5 D:8(prev. relationship)
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Another weird night with the wife. At my sons t-ball game, the wife was like back to normal. She was talk ative, smiling, laughing, telling me what they did that day. Then leaves for work and does not say goodbye. Lord please help me!!!!!


ME 31 / W 29
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S 3 / S 5
NOT HAPPY 11/11
BOMB 12/27/11
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Is what my W doing, a sign that my detaching is working or is she thinking that I'm fine with a D. Starting to think of giving up, I hate feeling like this.


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M 7 / T 13
S 3 / S 5
NOT HAPPY 11/11
BOMB 12/27/11
MOVED OUT 2/12
THINKS D WOULD BE BEST FOR HER 5/14/12
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W is doing what I believe is normal behavior.

The version of the W you knew is inside her. She will pop her head out every now and then.

DO NOT REACT TO THIS. Take things in stride. When the W I knew would show up, I would see it as a sign and jump at it. This would make it quickly disappear and take longer for it to surface again.

It is like the scared and hungry cat hiding in your house. If it shows itself and you run to it because you know it needs food, it will instantly run away. It needs to build trust before it decides it wants to stay unhidden longer.

Do not give up. Detach and GAL.


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Thanks Lost, This is just beating me down, I want it to work so much, but I hate being alone. Then the way she acts at times just makes me wonder. One thing I have worked on big time is patience. Still working on it.


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M 7 / T 13
S 3 / S 5
NOT HAPPY 11/11
BOMB 12/27/11
MOVED OUT 2/12
THINKS D WOULD BE BEST FOR HER 5/14/12
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Okay, this is going to sound silly. But I feel a little down because she finally changed her profile picture on FB. It was one of all us sitting in a hottub. I knew it was coming just hurt to see it happen. At least she left on there that we are still married. LOL. THis [censored], I want lie. 7th anniversary is Monday. I think thats what is brining me down, hope it hits her a little. Our 13th anniversary of being togethier did back in April. Did I say this [censored]!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


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M 7 / T 13
S 3 / S 5
NOT HAPPY 11/11
BOMB 12/27/11
MOVED OUT 2/12
THINKS D WOULD BE BEST FOR HER 5/14/12
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Oh, it doesn't sound silly at all! Of course it hurts!

My H went for a business trip in March just before he moved out. While he was gone he deleted 95% of the pictures of the two of us on FB. Then he dropped his married status. Then added lots of activities.

I was crushed. I asked him about it when we talked next and he said he can still see the married status on FB, but the public can't see it. I found it so painful.

Just now, I'm starting to fill out my profile more. Add more friends. Add more interests. I'm going to add some older pics (I have a couple of glamour shots ).

It's not to retaliate. Just to get more of my interest in my life on FB with friends and family. Not be so interested in what H is doing.

Maybe that would help you? As you are GAL, add those things to your FB page. It's very satisfying to see people comment on your stuff.


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'08 H is "done"
March '12 H moved out
Brink of D, December '12
2014 totally reconciled!
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"I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal."
Jim Conway
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