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"I think I might have lost myself with the debt load I was supporting, a new marriage, a new house, a new car, a new baby. I believe my thoughts were consumed by the pressure of taking care of everything, resulting in me not being as emotionally available"

honesty like this will help. we all have put things like this before our R with our S. there are hints from them along the way that we missed. think about those.


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S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23
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Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways."
H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12
12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing

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Wife and OM dropped son at daycare..... what a rollercoaster of emotions.


Me: 37 W:33
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M: 9/5/09
Suspected: 1/7/12
Confirmed: 2/10/12
Served: 3/29/12
W moved out 3/30/12
First court 5/17/12
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That is a killer, sorry.

My D4 talks about the OM and what they do when she is with the W at her apartment. My 4 year old just wants to be a kid and be happy but as her father, I die inside when the OM is playing with her.


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The sorrow is unbelievable... I can accept a divorce... but not this...


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"but not this..."

Yes you can and you must in order to overcome this.


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Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

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I could use some more guidence... a plan, to survive this, I'm starting to fall apart...


Me: 37 W:33
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M: 9/5/09
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W moved out 3/30/12
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"a plan, to survive this,"

Only you can come up with the plan. You need to build up your self-esteem once more. You are a man of worth and are much better than that POS that your W is running around with.

I know how it is. I felt the same way after my W first ran off with her boss. But you can survive and you will.

Go out and do something engaging that you must concentrate on to get your mind off of her. Read a book, play a video game, work on a puzzle, just something to not think of them.


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Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

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Hi all, when it rains it pours.... just got cut loose from my job.


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Served: 3/29/12
W moved out 3/30/12
First court 5/17/12
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Sorry to hear that. What happened?


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Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

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The company is in serious financial problems and they trimmed a lot off the payroll... I was unfortunately one of the unlucky ones...

It was found out the accountant was using funds for themselves...


Me: 37 W:33
S: 2
M: 9/5/09
Suspected: 1/7/12
Confirmed: 2/10/12
Served: 3/29/12
W moved out 3/30/12
First court 5/17/12
HELP!
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